Living with your significant other (whether it be a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, life partner) can be so exciting. Honestly, and this is going to make me sound crazy, I have been want to live with Lucas since we hit our one year anniversary! (WHILE WE WERE STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE!) But, when you and your partner finally get to that point, it may be a little…..different than you imagined. If you are considering moving in together, here is what living with your S.O. is really like!
So if you somehow don’t know already, Lucas and I recently moved in together for the first time when we moved to the east coast for his job. Now, I am not going to go into the details of that because I have an entire blog post about it which you can find here. Before this move, he and I have never truly lived together and shared the same space 24/7. There was our freshman year in college when Lucas was my unofficial third roommate because his was crazy….but that story is for another time! REGARDLESS, this is the first time we have lived together and honestly, it’s been pretty good.
There are some thing that I have had to adjust too but overall, we get along fine and haven’t had many fights from always being together. I am not saying that I wasn’t nervous to move in with him because I was extremely nervous to move in with him.You can confirm that with my mom, I was really nervous that he and I would live together and decide we actually hated each other and would break up. I’m dramatic, I know.
Truth is, we don’t hate each other even after living together for several weeks now. Have we had little arguments? Yes. Have we gotten on each others nerves? Absolutely. The biggest thing I have found about living with my S.O. is that it is all about picking the right battles. It isn’t worth starting a fight about how he leaves a dirty pan on the stove for a day. It also isn’t worth fighting over the fact that we will buy two pounds of black berries on a Saturday and they will be gone by Monday. Those things are not worth fighting about. Save the arguments for bigger things like bills and who’s dog is cuter.
I actually asked you guys to send me questions you had about living with your S.O. over on my Instagram and here is what you asked! I have also included questions I had before moving in with Lucas that I hope you find helpful to know the answers too.
Do you feel like you moved in with your significant other too early?
How do you agree on cooking food / grocery shopping when you are plant based and your partner isn’t?
How do you know when you are ready to move in together?
What is it like sharing a space with a boy?
How do you pay for things (like rent, groceries, pets)?
What about you? Do you live with your significant other? Thinking about it? I hope this post was helpful to you in making that decision. Know that it takes work and compromise and an understanding of each other. All in all though, it’s pretty dang fun.
[All photos are our own but were shot by the AMAZING Rachel Craig Photography! She is located in Charleston, South Carolina and is fabulous to work with if you’re in the market for a photographer!]