So I feel as if this kind of post has been written many a times before by lots of ladies who are apart of a sorority. But now I am going to write what I think it is like to be apart of a sorority because honestly, I feel like the people around me (i.e. a better portion of my family) don’t understand what it means to be a sorority woman. I feel like there needs to be some bigger explanation of what being a sorority woman is and I think its time to really put the kibosh on those silly sorority stereotypes. So, here is my take on what it really means to be a sorority woman.
Let me first point out and explain why I call myself a “sorority woman” instead of say, a “sorority girl”. The term “sorority girl” comes with it’s own connotation that I really don’t identify with. When you hear someone say “sorority girl”, what you really (honestly) think is probably “a blonde, ditzy, pearl wearing, glitter throwing, college aged person”. Umm, have you seen me? I am none of those things. While I do enjoy me some pearls and I think glitter is appropriate in some settings (hello, Bid Day), that is not me 100% of the time. Most sorority women do not fit this connotation either. Every sorority woman is different and should be seen as such. The term “sorority woman”, on the other hand, has it’s own meaning and it’s a meaning that I prefer to relate to. A “sorority woman” is someone who holds their organization’s values close, someone who carries themselves with class, and someone who should be seen as strong and be taken seriously. In my opinion, a “sorority girl” is the one you like to party on the weekends with while the “sorority woman” is the one you look to for guidance and support when you need it.
Now, let’s just address those stereotypes here and now because obviously I already have. Whenever I tell people I am in a sorority I am met with two types of people. You first have the people who are also in a sorority and are excited that they have met another sorority woman like themselves. And then you have the people who look at you like “wait….YOU’RE in a sorority?” Well…yes I am, thank you for fully processing what I just said to you, now let me try and convince you that I’m not what you think I am. I am not a hard-core, go all weekend partier. I am not a sleep with every frat boy I see kind of girl. I am also not stupid, ditzy, materialistic, self-centered, or paying for my friends. I am none of those things. I wasn’t any of those things before joining my sorority and I didn’t become those things after joining my sorority. Now, I’m not saying that I never go out and party because I am a college student and that’s what college kids do sometimes. Key word: sometimes. And by sometimes, I mean like once a month because I am a grandma and would rather sit on my couch with my roommates and eat mashed potatoes on Saturday night than go out and consume my daily caloric intake in alcohol. But, that’s just me. For some people that’s their jam and I support them 100%. But it isn’t everyone, and that’s my point. Sorority women are not all cut from the same board and we should not be treated as such. If you’re one of those people who thinks that being in a sorority means any of the things addressed above, ask a sorority woman to coffee and educate yo’self.
Being a sorority woman means a lot of things that go against those stereotypes. Being a sorority woman means being educated. Yeah, we’re actually smart, contrary to popular belief. Most sorority organizations actually require a specific GPA for it’s members, because being educated and focusing on our academics is important to us! WOW, way to break those stereotypes ladies. Another thing that being a sorority woman means it to be a servant leader and to be a good friend. I find it laughable when people say “Don’t you just pay for your friends?!” I’m sorry, I thought friendship is an invaluable thing, so what kind of mindset are you in that you think that we “pay for our friends”? I make my friends the normal way, for example, being a good human. These women don’t have to be my friends just because I am paying to be apart of this organization. You could say a lot of people are paying for their friends if they are paying to be apart of something (think about high school sports, clubs on your university’s campus, actually going to college?) You pay to do all of those things, so are you paying for those other members of said activities to be your friend? I didn’t think so, because “paying for friends” is a very silly concept and usually something that older men sometimes do when they’re looking for companionship. Finally, being a sorority woman means being a strong leader. I am apart of an organization that is chock full of future leaders in all areas of life. Heck, half of my sisters are going to end up being a force to be reckoned with in the world of business or pharmaceuticals! How crazy is that, we aren’t all just lining up to be trophy wives! Instead we are working to be strong future leaders and our sorority supports that initiative.
I know this post is coming off as a rant, but the harsh stereotypes and small boxes that sorority woman are put in really riles me up. I’m not going to apologize for it because if people are allowed to post long rants about things on Facebook, I’m allowed to do it here. I am just a little tired of how people instantly see me when I tell them I am in a sorority. I want them to see me for who I really am and how being in a sorority supports who I am. Being in a sorority supports my growth as a human in so many ways that I will not bore you with the list. What I will do instead is send thanks to my fellow sorority women around the world, on my campus, and in my own personal chapter. I am inspired by you every day and truly value what you bring to life. There is something to be said about every sorority woman, because we are not the standard “sorority girl” and we all deserve something to be said about how unique and diverse we really are. So here’s to us! All of us and all that we are. Let us go forth and educate people on what it’s really like to be a real strong sorority woman.