EPISODE 141: [TIPS&TRICKS] 5 Ways to Show Yourself Love More Often



Happy day of love cutie girl! For today’s episode, I am giving you five easy, yet impactful ways to love yourself a little bit more this year! These are allllll things I have done in my own life and I truly believe that they have made all the difference in how I move throughout my day and how I interact with myself. 


2024 is the year you love yourself more intentionally girl and these things are going to help you do just that! 



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Maddy 0:01 Hey bestie and welcome to the living in sunshine podcast. I’m your host, Maddy fry. And around here we are all about encouraging, inspiring, and giving you the tough love that you need to hear to get out there and live as your best self. Each and every Wednesday, you can expect to learn tangible tips to help you find your bigger purpose. be given simple action steps that you can take in order to make progress toward your biggest dreams. And hear how you can purposely pursue joy on the daily. So sit down, grab your favorite drink. And let’s have a girl chat. This is the living in sunshine podcast. Good morning, good morning, and Happy Valentine’s Day my love. Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast. I am so grateful and love you so much for tuning in to the show today. Whether you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with your love, or yourself or your dog, or your mom or your bestie girl, whoever it is, thank you so much for tuning into today’s episode. If you want to send me a Valentine today, you can do so in the form of heading to the link in the show notes. Or heading to living the letter n sunshine.com/survey. And take the living in sunshine personality survey, I created this personality survey just for you to help you discover your secret superpower. And which of the four personalities you are, you guys have loved taking this survey over the last year and I have loved sending you tailored results and challenges and resources and supports based on what personality you are. And so if you haven’t yet already taken the survey, go do so right now and then hit me up over on Instagram. And let me know if you thought your results were accurate or if you were expecting to be something else. But regardless, hit me up over on Instagram and let me know what your results are and what you think about them now because today is Valentine’s Day, I thought it would be really fun to give you five ways that you can show yourself more love more often. And I’m not gonna lie, some of these things are things that like are a no brainer, in my opinion, are things that shouldn’t be a surprise to hear from me, and are things that are actually going to help you fall in love with yourself a little bit more. Because that is what life is all about. Life is about loving who you are and where you’re going and who you’re becoming. And these five things are going to help you do just that. So without further ado, let’s go ahead and talk about five ways that you can show yourself more love more often thing number one is to get more sleep. And not just more sleep, but better sleep. And sleep is not anything new to this podcast, I talk about quality sleep and getting more sleep all the time. Because I truly believe that the quality and the amount of sleep that we get really does impact how we go throughout our day to day life. And there have been tons of studies that show that the quality or the amount of sleep that we get really does impact our overall cognitive ability, our productivity levels, our energy levels, our moods, our emotions, and for women, our hormones. And while I’m not here to like spiel about all the science behind sleep, I just want to encourage you to get more sleep and to get better sleep. And if you’re not sure how to do that, here are my two tips to help you do that today. Tip number one is to go to bed earlier, I understand that you are staying up late like an extra hour later because your kids finally went to sleep and you just need an hour to yourself. But I promise you, you will feel so much better tomorrow if you go to bed an hour earlier today. The other thing that I want to encourage you to do is to throw your cell phone out of your bedroom like literally go put it in a different room. This is something I have harped about 100 or more times on the show. I’m not even kidding. But I encourage you to invest in a real legit old school alarm clock, you can buy them on Amazon, you can get them at Target for like 10 bucks, they’re not expensive at all. And it will change the way that you sleep because what you will stop doing is laying on your phone until like 10 3011 midnight or later. And you’re going to get better deeper sleep because of it because the blue light we all know like messes with our circadian rhythm and like our eyes or whatever. And so when you remove your bedroom from your phone, you eliminate the distraction of your phone, the busyness that comes from having your phone nearby, maybe checking social media or scrolling Tik Tok, it’s just not good for you. So the first thing that you can do that’s really easy and like almost free to show yourself more love is to get more sleep and to work on having better sleep. The second thing that you can do this month to show yourself a little bit more love is to purchase or rent clothes that actually fit you. I talked about in my last episode how it has taken me years and years and years and years to get to the space where like I have finally accepted and love the way that I look and I love my body all of these different things. And part of the thing that has helped me to do that is recognizing that I am not the same Jean size that I was when I was 21 I’m just not and that’s okay, there’s nothing wrong with that. And the fact that instead of being like a size four or a size six, I’m more like a size 10 or 12 in dresses and there’s nothing wrong with that. If we want to love the way we look more, an easy logical thing to do, would you be buy clothes that fit the bodies that we have, right? Instead of buying things that are way, way way oversized, because we’re trying to hide the way that we look, or things that used to fit when we were like 1820 21, whatever. And they’re no, they no longer fit. Because you’re a woman and you’ve gotten bigger and you filled out and your hips and your boobs have gotten buried, you had a kid or whatever, you’re not going to make yourself feel good. If you’re not wearing clothes that make you feel good, right. So take this as a permission slip, to let go of your quote unquote skinny jeans, or to donate the dress that fit you when you were in college, and just let it go. You deserve to wear clothes that make you feel good and make you look good, because they fit good. You know what I mean? And again, this is one of those things that like feels like a no brainer. But so often I see and hear and witness women dressing in such a way that I know doesn’t feel good to them because they’re hanging on to or they’re they’re hiding, you know the way that they look because they’re not super confident in the way that they look. And if you want to help love yourself a little bit more, if you want to boost your confidence a little bit more as we move through this new year, purchase clothes or rent them I rent my clothes are newly I love it that actually fit you and go on that journey to discovering clothes that make you feel good, and make you look good, which is then going to make you feel more good. You know? Have you ever felt like the people in your life just don’t understand the dream that you have on your heart? Or even the desire that you have to be more joyful or intentional or even just plain happy? Like wife is good enough? Why do you need more? Right? Well, my friend if this is you, I have something special just for you. The Sunshine squad community is your go to place for that validation that you’re searching for, to know that you aren’t crazy for wanting more and that you aren’t alone in that desire either. This online community has grown to be filled with amazing joy seekers purpose pursuers, happy hustlers, and dream chasers just like you. In the sunshine squad community, you get continued guidance from me that you need to make your dreams a reality, a community of women who get it and the steps that you need to make your life something that you’re totally obsessed with. If you are ready to say yes to those things, you need to jump into the sunshine squad ASAP. And you can do so right now via the link in the show notes. If you do have questions on what the sunshine squad community is, or if it’s right for you, feel free to send me a DM over on Instagram, I would love to chat with you more about it over there. And my friend, I can’t wait to see you inside of the sunshine squad. Okay, thing number three that you can do that will help you to show yourself more love is to journal things about yourself that you either love about yourself or you’re proud that you did or you’re grateful for. Right. This is like an extension of a gratitude practice a journaling practice is something that I really want to get into into in 2024. Because I have seen and I’ve heard really great things about it. And so I’m kind of putting this in here as like a nudge to myself to try this out in 2024. But when we write and we more specifically reflect on the things that we love about ourselves, or we are proud that we have done or we reflect and we celebrate the accomplishments that we’ve had, we start to live in that mindset of, I’m a badass, I frickin did that, like, I’m amazing. I’m the coolest person that I know, I cannot tell you how often I say that I am the coolest person that I know. And I don’t say that to be selfish. I don’t say that to be self centered. I say that to like, boost my own ego, because sometimes you just need to boost your own ego. So try journaling. And writing is a form of reflection of the things that you love about yourself once a day, or maybe a couple times a week and really start to believe what you write really start to live in the mindset of, I’m the coolest person that I know. And I’m going to write about that consistently. And just watch what will happen to your mindset and your heart set when you do. The fourth way that you can show yourself more love more often is by saying no to things that you don’t want to do, like really don’t want to do. And yes to the things that light you up, right? Say no to the things that you don’t want to do. And yes to the things that you do. Because again, and I feel like this is such an intrinsically female thing to do. Where we are kind of we put ourselves in this mindset we were we you know are expected quote unquote expected to say yes to everyone and say no to no one, right? But in 2024 I want this to be the year that you say no to the wrong people. And yes to the right ones. I want you to say no to the dinner with your grandparents because you know your grandmother is just going to renew and like rip you a new one for what you’re wearing or what you’re doing or who you’re dating or whatever. And yes to going out to the bars on the weekends with your friends because you’ve seen them in four weeks right If I want you to say no to the things that make you feel like less, or make you feel like you’re not enough, or no to the things that, you know, we’re just going to generally make you feel like crap. And say yes to the things that excite you, or bring you joy, or make you feel grateful or make you excited, right? This is the year where you do this where you say no, intentionally, and yes, energetically, okay? And this is going to be something that takes practice, if you are a people pleaser, or a constant, Yes, girl in the wrong ways in the wrong situations and scenarios in life, this isn’t going to be something that happens overnight. But this will be something that you can practice once a week, intentionally say no to something and see how you feel. And positively say yes to something. And watch what happens when you do we have the power in our lives. And I always want you to remember that that no one has the power over your decisions more than you do. And you always have the right to make a decision, or pass on making a decision, if you know that it’s not in alignment with who you are, or what you believe, or what feels good to you. Okay, so say no to the things that you don’t want to do. And yes to the things you want to All right. And finally, the fifth way that you can show yourself more love more often is to stick to your boundaries, because honestly, your well being depends on it. boundary setting is something that I have talked about before on the show, and it’s something that I talked about very often over on Instagram, and is honestly something that takes a lot of practice not only to set really solid boundaries, but stick to them. And to me a boundary is a restriction or a rule or something that we ask of other people in order to honor our own well being and to protect our peace. And something that I want you to do more often, especially in 2024 is stick to your boundaries, stick to your guns, it’s okay for you to ask someone that you know, or your family or someone to like not send you certain types of content because it makes you feel bad. And it’s okay for you to say, I’m not going to that party because I don’t those people don’t make me feel good. Like they don’t support me, they only question me, they put me down. I’m not going and that’s okay. And I believe that sticking to your boundaries is such an act of self love. Because what it does is it helps to protect your mental well being your own peace, your own energy levels, which we are all have finite levels of anyway, right? When we stick to our boundaries, we are saying, I’m putting myself first you don’t have to agree with that. You don’t have to like that. You don’t have to be on board with that. But I need to do this for me, for my own well being. So I can go through life feeling joyful, feeling in alignment feeling energetically good. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Okay, so as a quick recap, your five ways to show yourself love more often is to work on getting more sleep. But not just more sleep, a better sleep better quality sleep, is to purchase clothes that actually fit you and make you feel really frickin good because you’re hot AF girlfriend and I need you to know that to journal about things that you love about yourself or you’re proud of or to reflect on the achievements that you have when you have them to say no to things that you don’t want to do, and say yes to the things that you do want to do. And then finally stick to your boundaries. your well being literally depends on you following through on your boundaries. And the more often you do these things, the more often you’re showing yourself love and in 2024 You deserve to love yourself. You deserve to believe in yourself and to show yourself tender loving kindness and love all the freakin time. That is everything that I have for you today, my friend. 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