EPISODE 71: [HYPE GIRL CHAT] REALITY CHECK: You Choose What You Choose to Think About

In today’s episode I am giving you a hard-core reality check on why you might be stuck in a mindset that is sucking the life out of you, because it might not be what you think it is. 

Take this episode and use it to grow your mindset in a way that you have probably never thought of before















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to another brand new episode of The Living in sunshine podcast. My name is Maddy, if you are new to this space, and I am so glad that you are here. If you don’t already follow me on Instagram, go follow me right now my handle is at living the letter N sunshine. And you can get all of this same info plus more plus crazy life plus dogs plus all of the things over on my instagram at living in sunshine. And I would love for you to go give me a follow if you aren’t already and then shoot me a DM to let me know you’re listening to today’s episode. Whether you’re listening to it right when it goes live or like years down the line. I really hope that there are people like three years from now who are listening to this episode, how crazy without being like talking about time warp. But you guys, I’m so happy that you are here. All month long on the living in sunshine podcast in August, we are tackling the topic and conversation of mindset, and how to train our brains to live in a joyful mindset. Because it is one of those things that so many people come to me with questions or asking for strategies or tips or suggestions or how do I live in a mindset that, you know, I feel joy on the daily or whatever it might be for you. So I’m so excited to be talking about mindset all month long in August. And if you love today’s episode or any of the episodes from August, please please please go share them over on Instagram, tag me so I can see why you’re loving them. And so I can share your biggest takeaways with my people as well. So my friends, we are going to dive right into today’s episode today is a Hyperloop chat, which is arguably one of my favorite episodes to record. These Hyperloop chats are essentially the fire and gasoline under your butt for you to get out there go get to work, go do the action, take the action that you need to live a life that you love to work towards a goal that you have to go chase a dream that you’ve had on your heart for forever. It’s really that weekly hype that we all need from time to time to design the life that we’re obsessed with. And I love recording them. They are short, sweet and to the point. And I really hope that you guys love them as much as I do. And today’s hybrid chat, you guys is all about giving you a gut check, a gut check on the fact that you choose what you think about. Okay, I’m going to say that one more time, you choose what you think about. And I know that there are going to be people out there who listen to this who struggle with specific mental health differences or mental health struggles that they might have where sometimes it feels as if they don’t have that control, or that they’re lacking that control to control their thoughts and to choose what they think about. And if that is you, I completely see you and I honor this space that you are in. But for the majority of you listening, you need to hear this today. Okay, and you need to hear what I have to say about this whole topic. And if you are triggered or you feel as if you have been called out or you feel as if I am speaking directly to you. Those are all signs in my opinion that you need to hear this today. Okay, so let’s just talk about it. First and foremost, you choose what you think about right? And it is something that I find so fascinating. I remember a few years ago, I went to this seminar with a brain surgeon slash neuro surgeon researcher who was talking about how our brains are trained to trigger our emotions and trigger our thoughts to have certain responses, okay, and she had us do this activity, if you would, there’s another word for that I’m not thinking about in this moment. And she asked us to think about a time in which we were so angry or so frustrated or so annoyed with someone else. And I want you to take 30 seconds right now to pause this episode. And just think about the time or a time that you have been so angry or so frustrated or so annoyed and I want you to pause and I want you to do that right now. So I’m assuming you paused, I’m assuming you took that time. And I’m assuming right now you feel pretty ticked off, right. And just by thinking about that time that you are so upset, or so angry, you right now, in the moment feel upset or angry, you didn’t need that person to come and stand in front of you, or you didn’t need that situation to happen, again, for your brain to think about that experience, or that time in your life or that memory to be triggered to be put in that same emotional state. You see what I’m saying. So when we know that our brain can do this, and we know that we have the ability, our brains have the ability to trigger these emotions, we can be better in tune with what we think about and more in tune with where our emotions are being spent. Okay. And the reason I wanted to talk about this and the reason I wanted you to think about that moment where you were so angry or frustrated or annoyed, is because it is a direct indicator that what you choose to think about, will then determine how you feel. So let me make this a little bit more clear. If you aren’t choosing to think about all of the things that are stressing you out, or making you anxious or making you worried or uncomfortable. You’re going to, in return, feel anxious or worried or uncomfortable. Okay. And on the flip side, if you choose to focus your attention on the things that are good on the things that bring you joy on the things that make you grateful you’re going to feel those emotions in return. So sorry to interrupt the show minute, but I have some exciting news I need to share with you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to share it that the sunshine squat monthly membership has officially launched to everyone. I designed this membership to help all of my happy hustlers, Joy seekers dream chasers and purpose pursuers have a space where they can feel supported, encouraged and inspired every single day to get after their most ideal life. Included in this membership are two coaching calls led by myself daily check ins to help you stay on track and accountable in your joy seeking weekly q&a opportunities for me to give you tailored coaching and guidance in your journey. And the High Pro tech stride is coming back for members only. And the best part about this, it’s only $20 a month. Literally, I made this membership for you, the girl who is ready to take control of her life, live a life of joy and obsession, and also help you get connected with other like minded women who want the same exact thing that you do. So go jump into the membership. Now you can find all of the information that you need and the link to join us in the show notes. Or you can go find more information over on my Instagram, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And I cannot wait to see you in there. Now, this is not me saying to brush all of your hardships under the rug. That’s not how I roll. If you’ve listened to enough episodes, you know that if you’re new here, I always want to make sure that I make that very, very clear. I am never one to shy away from the hard ever. That’s just not how I That’s not how I live. That’s not how I do things in this space. That’s not what I encourage you to do. I want you to recognize those things that are hard and choose to think about them to help yourself, process them and move past them. But what I don’t want you to do is dwell on them. Because when we dwell on past situations, or experiences or memories, that bring us down that make us feel those negative emotions, just like we did at the beginning of this episode of anger, frustration or annoyance. We’re going to continue to feel that way. So let me give you another example. Maybe you’re the kind of person who is always very much the world is out to get me no one likes me. I’m the universe hates me things are always going to be hard for me. Well Newsflash, because you think that way, that’s how your life is going to be. I can promise you that. Your mindset, your heart set where you are choosing to set your focus is going to be what you experienced throughout your day because you’re training your brain to look for that stuff. But in reverse, if you choose to, yes, acknowledge that you had a bad day at work. But you’re also so grateful for your your partner or your roommate, your your mom, whoever, and that you’re grateful for the fact that you get to come home to a home that is clean and has food in it and that you know, is a safe environment for you to live in. Your brain is going to start to notice those good things more often. Okay. And again, I recognize that you might be in a season of hard. I have been there so many times. There have been times where I’ve hated my job and you’ve hated what I was doing. I was in a tough spot in my relationship. We, you know, have been in seasons of just purging money on our house, we’ve been through seasons of heart, I get that I have personally been in seasons of hard. But even in those seasons of hardship, of stress and anxiety, and worry, and panic attacks and all of that stuff, I still chose to focus on the good. I still chose to wake up every single day, do my daily gratitude, do my daily affirmations, and train my brain and focus my brain on the good. Why? Because I knew and I know now, and I hope that you take away from this podcast episode today that even if I continue to focus on the bad, my brain is going to continue to only see the bad because that’s what our brains do. They know what we think about and what we think about, we start to notice more. And it isn’t just a motion, you guys, it isn’t just how we feel or how we move throughout our day, is I’m sure you’ve had the experience where you are looking for a new car or you are you just bought a new top or you just saw an ad for a specific type of coffee or whatever it might be. And suddenly, because you had that exposure to it, you start to see that car or that top or that coffee everywhere you go, right? It’s the same thing. We choose what we think about. And when we choose what we think about we then choose to decide how we’re going to go throughout our day, both physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, all of them combined. It all starts with what you choose to focus on and what you choose to think about that day in that moment. So this is your hype girl chat. This is your hype girl encouragement, reminder thing for you to do, I want you to choose to think about the good. Choose to think about the things that are going well, the things that are growing, the things that you are learning the new steps that you are taking towards your goals, the things that you are accomplishing over all of the stuff that’s going wrong, or all of the things that are hard, because I can tell you right now here honestly, truly transparently, I have a million things in my life that feel as if they’re not going right. But I have 1,000,001 things that are going right and they’re going really well. And I choose to focus on those things. Because what it does for my mindset is it routes it in a place of growth, gratitude, joy and obsession, every single day. Even if the day before I had a horrible day in the office. Even if the day before I had to drop 1000s of dollars on my house or on a dog or on a trip or whatever. I choose to see the good I choose to focus on the good or the bad because whatever you focus on is what you are going to feel throughout your day and you get to choose that it is a choice it is an option. It is what you can truly control in your life is what you think about. So today, choose wisely. Choose how you want to feel throughout your entire day and whatever you choose you stay in tune with how what you chose determines an end result in how you feel that day. Okay. That is everything I have for you today my dudes I know it was a little bit all over the place but that is your Hi girl chat that I feel as if you needed to hear when you choose to focus on the good when you choose to think about the good more good will come to you I promise you and that all routes back to mindset. If you love today’s episode please go give it a shout out over on Instagram at take a screenshot of today’s episode post it to your stories and tag me so I can reshare your biggest takeaway is with my people as well. Until next week, my dudes I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode. post it to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.