EPISODE 93: [HYPE GIRL CHAT] What You Aren’t Changing, You Are Choosing.

Whether you realize it or not, what you aren’t changing, you are CHOOSING. And in 2023, we are aiming to have the best year ever, which means it is time to make the changes we need in order to choose a better life for ourselves. When you do this, choose to change for the better, you are telling yourself and the people around you that you are deserving of the love, respect, and joy that comes with choosing YOU. If you are ready for some tough love and hype today, be sure to tune into today’s episode. 















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddie and I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Hello, hello and welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. I am so happy you are tuning in for yet another episode. My name is Maddy, if you are new around here and I am your host here to inspire, encourage and lift you up to live a life of joy and a life that you are obsessed with. Living in sunshine is a community brand company business space on the internet, where you can comment to get tangible tips, real life stories and just the encouragement and hype that you need to live a life that you cannot shut up and stop talking about whenever anybody asks you what’s going on in your life. All month long on the show, we have been talking about self growth, what that looks like and how we can continue to build sustainable self growth habits all year long. Because I’m in the mindset and I’m using the motto that 2023 is going to be the best year ever. And I’m giving you and serving you up all of the things that you need to be able to do the same thing and have the best year ever and girl just in case you haven’t already taken it. I need you to go take the living and sunshine at personality quiz that is linked in the show notes. Because all year long, I am creating resources, trainings and opportunities for those of you who have taken that survey and know which of the four living in sunshine at personalities you are. And in case this is your first episode, and this is your first time hearing about this personality survey. We have four distinct personalities within the living in Sunshine Community, which are the happy Hustler, aka the lady who was ready to make something completely for herself. The joy seeker meaning a woman who has a really great life, but is really yearning for more joy and a life that feels joyful every single day. Our dream chasers which are our cutie girls who have a big dream, but maybe struggle to figure out how to make that their reality and our purpose pursuers which are our friends who feel like they’re kind of floating through life. They know that they want more in life, but they’re not sure what that is. And they’re really working to pinpoint what that is for themselves. Now to determine which one you fully are, you need to go take this 10 Question personality survey over at living the letter n sunshine.com/survey. You can also find it linked in the show notes and over on Instagram. And once you do, you will get access to all of these trainings and resources that I’m creating for you and have already created for you all year long. Oh yeah. And don’t forget to send me a message over on Instagram with what your personality is because I love hearing what your personalities are. And I cannot wait to chat with you about what your results are. Now let’s dive into today’s hype girl chat, which if you have not already listened to a hype girl chat. These episodes are short, sweet, and to the point to get you on your way to living a life of joy and a life that you are obsessed with. And today, my friend, we’re going to be calling out the fact that what you aren’t changing, you are choosing Oh, let me say it again. What you aren’t changing, you are choosing oh my god on the floor passed out dead like hello. How true is this? This quote my friend is such a gut check because it is so true. What you aren’t changing, you are choosing right. And what this means is say you’re in a relationship that’s really draining, and it’s just toxic, and you’re not happy in it. But you’re failing to change anything about it. Whether that’s having an adult conversation with that person or just leaving that relationship entirely. You are choosing that relationship and maybe it’s not a relationship. Maybe it’s a job, right? Maybe you’re in a job that feels like it’s draining you or it’s ruining you emotionally or mentally it’s detrimental to your mental health, but you’re not doing anything to change that current job, whether that’s talking to your boss, or having a conversation with a co worker or just leaving and finding a new job entirely. If you’re not willing to change that thing, that relationship or that job that habit Are that mindset, you are choosing it, you are actively telling yourself, your mindset in your heart set, that you are willing to live with that thing, even if it is draining you, or, you know, harming your mental health, or is limiting you and holding you back from living a life that you love. That’s just the long and short of it. And this is something that I, I think, without even realizing it have really been living in this quote for years now. And to give you just a really fast story, in college, we had some roommate drama, as you do, right, like we put a bunch of girls in one house, like there’s going to be drama, right. And I was always in the mindset of, we either need to talk about this and work through it as a group, or we need to let it go and not let it bother us. Because continuing to let it bother us and have it fester isn’t making anything any better. And so we need to choose whichever one needs to happen, right, we need to change what’s happening in order to make it better. And if you’re not willing to make that change, whether it’s in silly roommate drama, when you’re in college, or in like a really large or serious situation, like your job or a relationship in your life, then you have to choose to let it go and not let it bother you. But what you have to do is make that choice to change or not. And if you choose to not change, you have to be okay with the fact that you are choosing that thing, whatever it looks like, right. And the way that you can embody this same mindset is to give yourself that ultimatum. And I know that that sounds maybe a little bit extreme right? giving yourself an ultimatum. But that’s just what it is. You have to know that when you live in this mindset of if I’m not willing to change it, that means I’m choosing it, it’s that same situation of you need to decide to either change it or let it go and not let it bother you. And if it’s something that’s going to continue to bother you, girlfriend, you need to pull up your big girl pants, pull your hair back out of your face, shoot some coffee or something and go out there and make the intentional changes that you need to change in order to better that situation, whatever it is for you. Okay? Because again, when you boil it all down, when you boil down your relationships and your work life and your the relationship you have with yourself, the things that you’re doing, if you’re not changing those things that are bothering you, you’re choosing to continue to allow them to control your life. And I don’t know if that’s something if you’re listening to this show, if you’re tuning in to this episode, I don’t think that that’s what you want. Or else you wouldn’t have clicked on this episode, right? You would not have clicked on this episode. If you didn’t need to hear that you need to put your big girl pants on and go out there and make some intentional changes in your life. Right? And if you did, you clicked on this episode just because you wanted to hear me rant, all the more power to you. But for real, there is probably something in your life that is bothering you. That’s creating unrest that’s not making you joyful, that’s making you question things, go out there and change it, why not? What is the biggest thing that’s going to happen, you have to go back and live the old life that you were living before. Okay, you already know how to do that you’ve already done it. But if you fail to change that thing, or at least try it to change that thing. You are actively choosing to continue to let it be how you live your life. And again, I don’t think anyone listening to this episode, it I don’t think that that’s what you want. I really don’t think it is. So just take it for what it is use this episode how you want whether you use it as a kick in the pants, or a sign to send this to a friend who you know is currently in the need of this kick in the pants. Use it take it take this energy that I’m giving to you borrow it, steal it, harness it for yourself, and go make those changes that you know need to be changed. So you can live a life that you love and live a life of joy and a life that you’re obsessed with. And again, whatever you aren’t changing, you are choosing and with that my friend that’s all I have for you hype girl chats my favorite ones to record short sweet to the point the perfect thing to listen to on your way to the grocery store or walking your dog or as you get ready use this energy use this hype girl chat to take action to make changes to choose you today. Because you deserve that. Until next week, my best friend I’m sending you all the sunshine, good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a second reach out of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week and until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.