EPISODE 144: [EDUCATION] Where Do You Feel Your Emotions and Why Knowing This Helps You



Content warning: Loss of a pet, grief, and talks of therapy. If you are not in a season where listening to these topics is going to harm your mental health, please pass on this episode <3

In this week’s new episode, we are talking about where we physically feel our emotions when we feel them. Literally, physically in our bodies do we feel our emotions. When we work to think about how our bodies are connected, you might realize that you feel your emotions in more places than your heart and in your head. This episode was inspired by my own personal experience talking to my therapist about this topic and I hope that by sharing it with you, you become more aware of where you feel your emotions.



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Maddy 0:01 Hey bestie and welcome to the living in sunshine podcast. I’m your host, Maddie fry. And around here we are all about encouraging, inspiring, and giving you the tough love that you need to hear to get out there and live as your best self. Each and every Wednesday, you can expect to learn tangible tips to help you find your bigger purpose. be given simple action steps that you can take in order to make progress toward your biggest dreams. And hear how you can purposely pursue joy on the daily. So sit down, grab your favorite drink. And let’s have a girl chat. This is the living in sunshine podcast. Good morning. Good morning, my beautiful friend. And welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. I hope you’re having such a great week. Such a great month. So far, March has been crazy bananas for me. I’m recording I’m not gonna lie. I’m recording this in January because I am actually going on a trip in February, we are going to break the fourth wall for a hot second. As I’m recording this I am two weeks away from leaving for Spain to hang out with one of my very best friends for a week, which is crazy to say. And I just have things going on in March already that I know it’s gonna be so crazy chaotic craziness. Um, so I’m just going to be like buckling up for safety and like holding on with both hands as tight as possible. But I hope you are having a fantastic month so far. If you’ve had anything amazing that you want to celebrate or have me cheer you on about send me a message over on Instagram. And I’m super excited for today’s new episode. So today’s new episode is actually inspired by a conversation that I had with my therapist, Mary, shout out to Mary I frickin love that woman with everything that I am. This is not my first mention of Mary on the show. I wonder if there is like some sort of conflict of interest if I would have Mary come on the show. Literally, I would frickin love that so much. Anyway, this episode was inspired by something that Mary said in one of our sessions back in January. In case you missed it, which you didn’t miss it, I didn’t really talk about it very much. I had to unfortunately say goodbye to my childhood pet Henry, if you are a long term listener of the show, or you follow me on Instagram, Henry was my little buddy, my little partner, I had him for 13 years, I essentially raised him since he was a puppy. And we had to unfortunately help him cross over the great rainbow bridge back in January, which was really, really difficult. And something that was actually more difficult than I expected. I hang on to this weird sense of pride that really was kind of embedded into me as a kid to not feel my feelings, or at least not feel my feelings in an external way. And so I knew that his time was coming. And I knew that, you know, we were going to have to help him along. And so I kind of got to mourn him. And I promise I’m getting to the point. But this context is important. I kind of got to mourn him while he was still here, if that makes sense. But even after he was gone, it really truly honestly messed me up more than I expected it to. There are small things that I really wasn’t expecting to miss. Or to be sad about that I do miss and that I am deeply sad about. And I was having this conversation with Mary, this is where I’m bringing it back around about how I feel. And she said something that really struck me. And that is the whole point of this episode. That’s where this episode come from. So she said we were talking about grief. And we were talking about anger and anxiety and the different feelings that we feel. And she’s like, I don’t know about you. But I feel my grief in my stomach. She’s like I it is it’s like a wave of emotions. And it kind of makes my stomach do a flip. And I feel it in my stomach. But I don’t know where you feel your grief. And it made me think like, where do I feel grief? Were in more enlarger than that? Where do I feel my emotions in my body. And it was one of those things that since she has said it. I have been trying to pinpoint where I feel different emotions in my body. And the more I thought about it, the more I thought I paid other people don’t even think to do this or think to think about this, right? We are in my opinion, trained to believe that we feel all of our emotions in our head and in our heart. And as I get older, and as I start to unwind some of my childhood trauma, childhood experiences, things like that. I realized that that’s not true. And so I wanted to encourage you to have this internal conversation with yourself this Moment of Reflection with yourself and ask yourself, Where do I feel my emotions in my body, because it might not be what you think it is. And to explain this a little bit, I want to share with you where I feel different emotions in my own body in my own personal experience, because I really think that when we can pinpoint this, we can self regulate our emotions a little bit better. And not only that, we can support ourselves through the good and the bad, more easily more intentionally, to then have a more overall joyful life experience, which is why we’re all here, right? We are all here I am assuming you are here listening to the show, not because my voice is amazing, but because you want to live a more intentionally joyful life. And to do that, we have to come to grips and come to terms that we are not a one emotional kind of person. We don’t only ever feel joy, or happiness or excitement, or rah, rah, Go, girl, you’re the best thing ever, all the time, right? Life has ups and downs life, just like nature has seasons, we’ve talked about this before. And if we want to live in the season of joy and intention and feeling aligned, we also need to recognize that to have that experience more often, we’re going to have to deal with the hard and the heavy and the not so fun, right? The not sexy, the sad, the anxiety, the anxious, the worried, the whatever. And so the reason I want you to think about where you feel your emotions, is to first and foremost encourage you to become a little bit more self aware. Because self awareness is a huge thing that I feel like so many people don’t practice enough, and, and aren’t connected enough to their bodies and their hearts and their minds enough to be able to do. But to also give you a another tool in your toolbox to better support yourself through the seasons, that might not be the seasons that you’re going to like write home about, right? Those seasons that feel hard or heavy or not fun or, or tough, right. But also not only that, to be more aware of when you’re feeling really good. So anyway, let me get back to my point. Where do we feel our emotions in our body? And I’m sure there are studies on this I like this is coming from like a girl who had a moment of inspiration by something her therapist said, if you have more insight on this, please send me a message on Instagram because I find this fascinating. But where do I feel my emotions me personally mowdy Fry, living in sunshine, business owner, CEO, all those things, right? For me, I feel grief. And this is what I said to Mary. I was like, I feel grief in my heart. And I feel like grief to me feels like someone kind of squeezing my heart. And like I kind of get this like tightness in my chest, right? But I feel stress. And I feel overwhelm right between my shoulders. Like I know when I’m stressed out, or overcapacity, or overwhelmed, because a knot starts to form right between my shoulders and like right at the base of my spine or not my spine, but my neck. And I feel it for days. And I know that I’m really stressed when I wake up in the morning, and I feel that feeling behind my shoulders were like you, you’re kind of like stretching your shoulders and you’re trying to like work out the knot in your back. And it just doesn’t go anywhere. That stress for me. Another place that I feel stressed. And this might sound weird, but it might also be you is in my feet. And let me explain this two years ago now, which is crazy to say can’t believe it’s been two years. Oh my gosh, two years ago when we were moving from El Paso, Texas to Charleston. I developed really bad plantar fasciitis and I am 29 I have very nice feet. I think like my arches aren’t bad or whatever. Like plantar fasciitis is something that you usually get when you are like an athlete or you’re running or you’re older. I’m none of those things. I’m literally none of those things. And what I discovered was it wasn’t because I was a runner, or like a cross country runner or anything it was because I was stressed like my the muscles in my body started to react to the stress in my feet. And since realizing that whenever I start to have flare ups of my plantar fasciitis, I now know it’s not because there’s something wrong it’s because I’m stressed out and I’m stressing myself out right? So stress in my feet and behind my shoulders. Grief is definitely in my heart. I feel anxiety and worry in my stomach and this might be TMI, but like we’re friends here, so it’s a fine. I’ve talked about poop on the show before so it’s like not gross. It’s gross to you. You can skip over the next like two minutes. I feel anxiety and worry in my stomach. And it legitimately makes me sick to my stomach to the point of where like I feel like I’m going to You pooped my pants. And again, the reason why this is important is because I know that when I start to have a stomach ache, I can ask myself, Am I feeling this way? Because I’m worried. Am I feeling this way because I’m like sick, I ate something bad right? Now other emotions that we should explore happiness, joy, excitement, energy, all of these things, where do I feel them? Me personally, I feel the feeling of joy in my heart and in my stomach. And honestly, it’s kind of like a whole body experience. Like I feel really, really light, I feel energized, I feel excited. And I feel it all throughout my body, right, my brain feels really alert, I feel really energized. And that’s where I feel that feeling of joy right in my heart in my head and my stomach. I feel really light. I know that that is kind of hard to conceptualize. But that’s just how it is. And these are just a few examples as to where I feel these emotions in my body. And again, the reason I’m sharing this with you is to encourage you to take a moment to reflect on where you feel your own emotions, right? Where do you feel a sense of stress and overwhelm? Is it in your back? Is it in your feet? Is it in your head? Do you get headaches? Do you get like brain fog? Where do you feel that feeling of sadness? Or grief or loss? Right? Where do you feel that feeling of excitement and joy and love? When we take a second to really marinate on this question? Where do I feel my emotions physically feel your emotions in your body, when you start to feel those things, those your body starts to send you those signals, you are going to be able to better identify what feeling you are feeling if this is something you struggle with, right. And not only that, you’re going to be able to better identify when that feeling has passed, or how you can better support yourself. As you have that feeling. And the point of recording this, I have had that stress knot in the back of my shoulders behind my shoulders for weeks. And today’s the first day that I have woken up and it’s not been there. And I know because I have tuned into my body in this way. Because I am self aware enough in this way, I am able to feel and kind of visualize that stress, leaving my body moving away from my body, moving and exiting my body. And I’m starting to feel better, right? So just take a moment today, in this week, or this month to tune in to where your body is sending you signals. And ask yourself, Is my body sending me this signal? Because I’m overwhelmed or I’m overbooked? Or is it because I’m having like the best time of my frickin life. And I’m so excited, right? When we ask ourselves these questions, when we tune into our own self, and we start to self reflect and become more self aware, we are able to live more joyfully. And again, that’s the entire reason for this show. That’s the entire reason for this, this space on the internet right? To give you the tools and action steps and things to consider and marinate on so that way you can live a more joyful experience. And so if you can identify where you feel certain things in your body, send me a message on Instagram, I’d love to know. I’m sure a lot of us feel stress in our shoulders and our backs. Maybe we feel joy and happiness in our in our brains, our brains just feel more alert, whatever it might be, send me a message. Let’s talk about it. If you love to today’s episode, feel free to send it to a friend posted to your Instagram Stories. Don’t forget to tag me so I can reshare you on mine. And until next week, my friends I’m sending you all this sunshine, good vibes. And I hope you make it a great day. Girlfriend. Thank you so much for listening to today’s new episode. 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