Episode 47: [STORYTIME] How I Thrive While Dealing with Anxiety

**TRIGGER WARNING** In this episode we are tackling the idea of ANXIETY and MENTAL HEALTH. If these themes & topics are going to make you uncomfortable or trigger negative or harmful thoughts / habits, I recommend you pass on listening to this episode.

In today’s episode I am giving you a real, raw, and unedited look at my dealing with anxiety and how I thrive even when I am struggling. I share this story with you today to show you that even if you struggle with mental health, you can still do big things like take care of yourself and chase your goals. I highly suggest you seek more support if you need it and that is something I am working on as well. 

To all my anxiety warriors, I see you and I feel you. I know what you are going through first hand and I am always in your corner if you need it. 



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Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water, and let’s get into it. In morning, my dudes and welcome back to the living in sunshine Podcast. I’m so happy and thankful that you guys are tuning in every single week for a brand new episode. And if you are someone who has listened to every single episode of the show, I just want to say I am so thankful for your continued support. In case you haven’t caught the last few episodes of February all month long, we are tackling the theme of mindset. And today I’m getting really raw, really personal with you and sharing with you how I thrive while dealing with some pretty severe anxiety. And to be completely transparent and honest with you guys, I do not have a script, I do not have an outline. I do not have anything planned for this episode. And I did that on purpose because I wanted this episode to feel very raw, very personal, very conversational. And just like I’m talking to a friend, right, I wanted you to listen and feel like you were having an honest conversation with me. And like you were having an honest conversation with a friend like you would like at a sleepover. Right? So today we’re tackling the idea. Today we’re tackling the topic of anxiety. And if this is something that triggers you, or makes you uncomfortable, or maybe triggers your own anxiety, right? If you are someone who suffers with anxiety, I give you the past to pass on this episode. Okay, I’m giving you the permission, I’m giving you the warning. Now again, like I said, I don’t know where this episode is going. But just to be safe. If this is something that is going to trigger you or make you uncomfortable, or kind of make you question your own ideas or or mindset or even mental health, right, that’s another big theme that we’re covering today. Then I give you the permission slip to not listen. So anxiety, right? I feel like every single day on Instagram, I hear and see these people talking about how they have anxiety, I feel like anxiety is a very, very common thing. But I wanted to sort of share with you what my anxiety looks like, where it comes from, and also how I thrive while dealing with anxiety. Because if you follow me on Instagram, if you watch my stories, you see that quite often I’m very happy. I’m very joyful. I am you know, rainbows and butterflies and all that stuff. Don’t get me wrong, I do share the hard stuff. And I do share like the shitty parts of life. But it’s also one of those things that I am very often any vibrating at a very high frequency. And the reason is because and the reason for that is because I have found and created and made my own type of coping mechanisms. Now, when I talk about coping mechanisms, you guys, I am not currently in therapy. Not while I’m recording this episode, I know that I do need to go to therapy and or counseling however you want to see that whatever you want to say I know they’re different. Um, but I also just want to share my honest experience with it, what it looks like and how I manage it to do all of the things that I do because again, I do a lot I’m a multi passionate entrepreneur and dealing with anxiety as a business owner is a really hard thing to do. And it’s something that I am still learning how to navigate. But this is just my life. These are my things that I do for me, if you want to try them out great. This isn’t a tips and tricks. This is just a storytime but yeah, that’s kind of my my forewarning my warning label if you would for this episode. So let’s talk about really what my anxiety looks like. Right? So for me, and your anxiety if you do suffer from anxiety is maybe going to look different than mine and that’s normal. Everyone’s everyone has a different formation and a different sort of manifestation of their anxiety if you they do have it. But for me, my anxiety manifests itself in really consuming thoughts really consuming. What’s the phrase not impulsive thoughts but intrusive thoughts and it manifests itself physically in tapping if I am feeling anxious or nervous or worried I tap my finger. I bite my fingernails a lot I get stomach aches a lot and sometimes I just I freeze right it’s like that deer in headlights like Lucas can honestly tell when I’m having you know anxious thoughts or I’m suffering with my anxiety because he’ll come into my office and I’m literally just sitting there like not blinking not looking like almost like a statue and that’s because those intrusive you know income all consuming thoughts are are preventing me from Working and on really bad days, my anxiety manifests itself in really scary physical and emotional panic attacks to where I can’t breathe, I’m crying, I feel like I need to run away. And there’s a lot of things that go into that, right. So if you’re someone who suffers from anxiety, and you’re hearing these things, I’m right there with you, I’ve been there. But that’s really how my anxiety manifests itself and on a much, much lower level. Because I honestly feel like I suffer from anxiety every single day, there’s always some level of anxiety. It just sort of manifests itself as a constant, nagging feeling that everything is going to go wrong, right? Like I have that thought, in my mind, almost every single day, almost from the time that I wake up to the point where I go to bed. And if you’re sitting here and you’re thinking, Dang, this girl needs counseling. I know, I’m working on it. I’m working on finding my right person. Um, if you someone who started therapy, I know I have a best friend who, who’s going to grad school to become a therapist. I’ve had multiple conversations with her. It’s a process to find someone you feel comfortable talking to. It’s a process I’m going through right now don’t work. I’m working on it. But for me, that’s really what my anxiety looks like, right? That nagging constant feeling of everything is going to go wrong. I’m making the biggest mistake of my life. What am I doing? Am I you know, all of these different consuming thoughts. But the thing that I do, and the way that I helped myself to thrive and overcome my anxiety, because it can be quite crippling, physically and emotionally and mentally, the thing that I do, one of the things that I do is I give myself five minutes, I give myself five minutes to take a step back and to refocus myself when I do this. This is something that I learned from a book called The High Five habit by Mel Robbins, where she said, and she shared about her experiences with anxiety, she said that she puts both of her hands on her heart. And I this is something I do now too, because it really does help she closes her eyes. And she takes a couple of deep breaths, and she repeats the mantra, I Am Okay, I am safe. And I am loved. Okay, so again, taking a couple deep breaths, and I do this in the morning, I do this at night, honestly, in bed, when I’m feeling really, really anxious that I need to calm my mind, I take a couple of deep breaths, and I put my hands on my heart and I close my eyes. And I just told myself, I am okay, I am safe. I am loved because a lot of my thoughts, those intrusive thoughts that I am talking about, you know, they make they make me believe that I feel unsafe, they make me believe that I’m messing everything up, they make me believe that everything is going to come from a crashing to a crashing halt. And that’s just not the truth. So that little thing that I do, that I learned from Mel Robbins and her book, you guys has really helped to ground myself when I’m getting kind of lost down the rabbit hole of my own thoughts and refocus myself on the present and where I am right now. So if you are someone who also struggles with anxiety, again, the tip, the strategy is to put both of your hands on your heart, close your eyes, you can do this at your desk, if you do this in your bed, you can do this while you take a shower. And really whenever you’re having a moment, right, your inner demons are talking to you, as my mom likes to say, and repeat that mantra, I Am Okay, I am safe. And I am loved. And take a couple of deep breaths, repeat it to yourself as many times as you need to. And watch the physical reaction that your body has, as soon as you put those positive thoughts into your mind. And that is really one big thing that I do a lot to help ground myself. The other thing that I do to help myself thrive, even while dealing with the type of anxiety that I do is I get out of my own head by writing things down. So when things get really bad, you guys, I sometimes find that writing down what I’m thinking and rereading it to myself helps me to pinpoint the areas of just complete of complete monstrosity that just don’t make any sense, right? Things are not going to come to a crashing halt because I spent $25 at Target like that’s just that’s not going to happen. My relationship is not going to spontaneously combust because I’m working longer hours right that’s that’s that’s just illogical some thoughts that come into my mind are completely illogical. And just writing them down and rereading them to myself helps me to to refocus and ground myself on the legit possibilities on the realness that can happen versus the things that are just so totally illogical and made up in my brain that are making me freak out and feel really really anxious. And you guys the last thing that I do to help myself thrive while dealing with anxiety is I communicate this with other people and this is something that I have had to learn how to do truly learn how to do because just a couple years ago, instead of talking to people that I was about the fact that I was suffering or about the fact that I was feeling anxious or worried or stress, I would just completely shut down, and I would become irritable, I would become angry, grouchy, really tired is another one that then makes me really, really emotional, like angry emotion right now good emotion towards other people. And now after practicing, and after teaching myself that I have needed to become more vocal about how I’m feeling, specifically with my mom and my husband, it has been such a burden, because they then are able to help me talk through whatever I want to talk to, whatever I want to talk through, they’re able to better help me sort of work through what I’m thinking, and honestly bring me back down to earth, right? Because sometimes, especially if you’re someone who suffers with anxiety, you know, that our thoughts can really just take us to this extreme, that is just again, not possible. And just by communicating what I’m thinking and what I’m feeling with other people, whoever it might be, generally are able to talk me off the ledge, and to help me to come back down to earth and focus on what’s really going on, and how I can tackle it. And again, this is a strategy that I’ve really had to learn how to do. And Lucas, God love him, literally, I don’t know what I did to deserve him. Lucas, my husband, if you don’t know who Lucas is, maybe you’re new to the show, you just found me. He has been really great about asking how I’m doing, what can he do to help? And and is there anything that I need from him to help me sort of get through this. And just by communicating what I need from him, you guys has really helped me to thrive because we now have that level of understanding between us of how he can help me and how I can help him help me better. Does that make sense? And just having that open line of communication helps me to thrive daily, because when I am feeling stressed when I am feeling anxious or worried, extreme worry is what I like to talk about on Instagram, he really helps me to stay grounded and come back down to earth, and be an advocate for myself, which is really, really, really helpful. And that’s really some of the things that I do. Those are some of the biggest things that I do to help myself thrive while dealing with my anxiety. Obviously, there’s other things that I do like my daily gratitude practice and my affirmations I work out to help my anxiety, that’s a really big thing that I do. I go outside, I listen to music that I love. Obviously, there’s a bunch of other small things that I do every single day that helped me to sort of manage and thrive while dealing with pretty severe anxiety, if I do say so myself. And if it’s something that helps you to either feel less alone, or to give you an A, or to give you an idea of how you can better help yourself. That’s all I want from this episode, right? I’m not here to gripe or to say, oh, woe is me, because I know people have it way worse than I do. But just by sharing my story and sharing sort of my tips, and my background with mental health and my own mental state, right, in my own mindset, because that’s our theme for February. My hope is that gives you hope that you can thrive as well. Even if you’re suffering from some kind of mental health disorder or mental health issues, mental health issue, doesn’t matter if it’s extreme, doesn’t matter if it’s minor doesn’t matter if it’s only focused on one area of your life, maybe it’s your job, or your kids or your family or whatever you can thrive. Even if you have a mental health issue, or a mental health struggle or something that you’re dealing with and going through, you can thrive and you can use that as your superpower to be able to grow to your highest potential, even when dealing with your own mental health. Okay, and that is the reason and the purpose behind this episode. And I hope that with hearing this episode, you kind of get a better understanding of me and my mindset and how I use that mindset and how I grow that mindset. Even with a sometimes debilitating dis debilitating mental health issue, like my anxiety, you are not alone if you struggle with mental health, or if you need support, I’m going to put some really great links and phone numbers down in the in the show notes for you. So that way you can learn more and you can get the help that you need. And that is everything I have for you totally unscripted, totally raw, totally an inside look into my mindset and how I use my mindset to thrive every single day and how I use it to help myself Thrive every single day. And again, if the only thing that you got out of this was that he has her own issues, but she’s still thriving and I can do that too. That is all I want from this episode. So if you loved it feel free. I’d love for you to share it over on social media. Take a screenshot of today’s episode and tag me over on Instagram story so I can share it with my people as well. Know that I love you so much no matter what you’re dealing with, no matter what your inner demons say. I love you. I’m here for you and I will see you again in next week’s episode. Until then I’m sending out I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave, it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode, post it to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.