Episode 49: [STORYTIME] What I did to get my MIND RIGHT When It Came to Work

Happy March and happy Wednesday friend! All month long on the podcast we are talking all about work/life balance, what that looks like, and how you can work towards it in your own life! In today’s episode, I am going to share with you how I got my mind RIGHT when I first started working for myself back in 2020. 


Remember this — you are NOT your work, you are your own person. You can love your work and love what you do and still have a life outside of what you do for work. Use some of the tips and strategies in this episode to help you get your own mind right when it comes to work! 














Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to the living and sunshine podcast. If you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddie and I am so pumped that you are back for yet another episode of the loving and sunshine podcast. This podcast literally has been my pride and joy for almost a year. Now you guys can you believe we are in March I started the podcast last March and 2021. We’re not quite at the one year mark. Like if I were a mom, I would say like my podcast is like 50 weeks. You know what I mean? You know how moms do that, like new moms are like my babies 24 months and it’s like your baby’s two years old. like at what point do you go from months to years, right. That’s how I feel about the podcast. The podcast, I think is 14, eight weeks, 49 weeks, or almost a 52 weeks. So we’re almost at a one year birthday for the podcast. And I’m so excited that we are almost at this big milestone. If you have been listening since the very beginning of this podcast conception a year ago, I’m so thankful that you’re still tuning in. And if you’re brand new to the show, I’m just happy you’re here. Okay, so before we get into today’s episode, I have a couple of things that I want to remind you. The first one you guys is a big freakin deal. So in case you missed it over on Instagram, which my handle is at living the letter N sunshine. So at living in sunshine, you probably know about what I’m going to talk about. But in case you’re only listening to me on the podcast, you have not yet heard that I am opening up and launching my first ever full length course on April 1. So we are within the one month mark of the course opening up. I am so pumped about this course, the name of the course is the own your vision course. And this course you guys is for anyone who is ready to finally make their dream life happen. This course is not only for people who are wanting to make their dream life happen, but also for people who have had goals or dreams or a vision for their life for a long time now that they’ve never started to move the needle towards this course has been something I had been working on it since the end of last year. And the fact that it’s finally coming into reality is incredible. And something that I’m so excited and proud to give to all of you. So if you want more info on on your vision course, you can find the info link in the show notes. You can also find it linked over on Instagram if that’s easier for you. And you definitely want to make sure that you put yourself on the waitlist for the on your vision course to gain access to special promotions, to save a little bit of money and to get bonus enrollment options that are only open to my waitlist. This course you guys I promise you is a full scope, all of my tips and tricks, all of my strategies, everything that I’ve done all of the mindset work that I have done, put into one course to help you grow and work and live a life of your dreams and to make your dreams your absolute reality. So if you are ready to take control and own your vision this year 100% Go put your name on the waitlist and make sure that you enroll for the on your vision course once it launches on April 1. Alright, and with that announcement out of the way, let’s go ahead and jump into today’s episode. So all month long, in the month of March, we are going to be talking about work life balance and kind of all of the things that revolve around work, or life or passions being an entrepreneur, achieving goals that maybe take time away from other parts of your life and all of that good stuff. So even if you’re not a business owner, even if you’re not someone who maybe works full time, you will still hear and learn of different tips and tricks and strategies and mindset reset sort of things that you can do to get your mind right when it comes to whatever area of life that you consider work. I am sharing with you what I did to get my mind right when it came to work. So if you’re new here, or maybe you’ve never heard my story before, you probably don’t know that I am a full time business owner and I own probably close to four or five growing successful businesses at this point in my life. And I’m only 26 I’ve also been someone who has been working since I was have like legal age to work. I had been a babysitter a nanny a I worked at Forever 20 are not forever 21 What To call limited to, I worked at limited to as soon as I turned 16, I worked in a retail position at maidwell. For about six or seven years, I’ve always been someone who’s always always worked literally as early as I can remember, right, as soon as I was like of age to be able to work, I was working. And the reason for this is because my family grew up very, very poor. And we had to kind of work for whatever we earned, right? Like, we weren’t just handed everything that we wanted, we weren’t wearing the latest things, we weren’t driving the newest cars, we weren’t getting the newest phones. And so if we wanted something as kids, my siblings and I growing up, we have to work for it, right. But growing up in that way, while I am so thankful for the opportunity, and so thankful that that’s how I was raised, like don’t get this twisted, I’m so thankful that I was never handed anything because it’s given me the work ethic that I have now. It also kind of manifested in me personally, in some really not so healthy mindset and sort of frame of mind when it comes to work in this not so healthy frame of mind when it came to work really reared its ugly head come 2020 When I went to work for myself full time, because when you work for yourself full time, there’s no one else to help you, right, you have to wear all the hats, you have to do all the things you have to hold yourself accountable to doing the things that you need to do to grow your business. And in 2020, I was working two businesses. So I had my health and wellness business, which is a network marketing business. And I had an online educational business where I taught students English who were based in Asia. So I had these two businesses that I was running. And I really really struggled with giving myself time to rest right you guys I literally told myself, I will rest when I get to x goal. So income goal rankle sign up goal? Classes, taught goal, whatever it was, but until I met that goal, I am working like I am not resting until I get to that goal that was 100% My mindset. And I used to tell myself and make myself feel guilty when I wasn’t working because I felt like I needed to be working right? How often? Or how many times have you done this to yourself. I know some of you struggle with this, because it’s something I still talk about on my Instagram today. Because work in life, you guys say has to happen together, they can’t be mutually exclusive. Because here’s the thing, we are not our work, we’re just not, you might love your work. And you might pour yourself into your work. I know I do. I love what I do, I pour every single part of myself into my work. But I am still an individual human outside of my work. And that was something that I didn’t understand. And I didn’t really embrace during this season of life. And you guys, it was probably six to eight months of just grinding and grinding and grinding and working and I would work myself. And again, I worked from home full time I worked for myself full time, I would work easily from 6am to like seven or eight o’clock at night through dinner through lunch not taking any break because I was not getting to those goals. And what it took for me to sort of SNAP myself back into reality was actually my mom giving me a really great piece of advice. And my mom is someone who’s super qualified to do this, because she’s worked from home now for 25 years, I don’t know as long as I’ve been alive. And she told me this piece of advice that I’m passing on to you today, she said to me, there will always be more work to do. And it will always be there when you get back. But what won’t always be there is you. So if you are burning yourself out and grinding yourself down to the brim of breaking, that’s not beneficial for your work. It’s got to be a given take from both parts of the party. So after taking this advice and hearing this advice, I then sort of transition to getting my mind right with my work. And what I did was a couple of things. The first thing that I did was I implemented boundaries with my work. And I really worked to grow my mindset and being more focused on the idea of this is what I do. It is not who I am, again, creating that distinguishing line in the sand of I am a person, I do this as work. My work is not who I am. Does that make sense? Right. So some of the boundaries that I set right off the bat, you guys was logging off five nights a week at 5:30pm. And walking away from my computer super easy, super quick to implement because it really was just implementing work hours for myself. So whether you are someone who works maybe in an office job, a nine to five job, or maybe you’re someone who works for yourself or you’re growing a side hustle. I encourage you to implement office hours for yourself and know what those office hours are. Are you working on Saturdays? Yes or no? Are you working on the weekends? Yes or no? Are you working in the mornings before you go to work? Are you working in the evenings? You have to implement those office hours those work hours or else you’re going to find yourself work? Getting all of the time. The next thing that I did, which I talk about all the time, over on my Instagram Stories, you guys is implementing a potato day. And if you’re not sure what a potato day is, it’s essentially a day where you become a potato, and you do not do any work whatsoever at all the whole day. Okay, I’ve talked about this before, I truly believe that this is one of the most important things that you can do. Both as a business owner, as a mother, as a teacher, as a wife of whatever you might do, you’ve got to give yourself at least one day out of the week. And if you’re a business owner, you work for yourself, you can decide if this is Sunday or Tuesday, it does not matter to me, you pick your day. But implementing a potato day in my life has given me another solid boundary for me to take a step back, focus on myself, get stuff done around the house, like laundry, and dishes and vacuuming, all that boring stuff, but to also have a time to rest and recuperate from my work. Because I can tell you during the week, I work really hard, I wake up at five o’clock every single day, I work until probably five or 530 Every single day, sometimes longer. Obviously, I take breaks throughout my workday. But having my potato day is my day where I can take care of myself, remind myself that I’m a human, and I’m not what I do for my work, and to rest and recuperate and come back to my job and my multiple jobs honestly, feeling rested and recovered. And honestly more inspired than when I left on Friday afternoon. And this last thing you guys that I have implemented and started to do most recently, like within the last year and a half has been not allowing myself to work during my meals. So during lunch, and during dinner, I am not working. So I’m not on Instagram, I’m not on my computer, I’m not reading my email. I’m not responding to comments, nothing, I’m focusing on eating, I might be watching a YouTube video or watching something on Netflix, but I’m not working. And the reason why this is important. And the reason why this has made such an impact is because it allows me to have that sort of disconnect from my work day, and allows me to have an intentional period of rest and break in my work day. So instead of blowing through my lunches or eating my lunch at my desk, I will eat lunch in our kitchen or go outside or eat on the couch, whatever. But just having those breaks within my workday are super beneficial for me to have a really intentional break within my workday, and then go back to work one actually having eaten and enjoy my meal, and to really get refocused and get back to work in a really productive and intentional way. And you guys, I had to grow my mindset to be something like this to be something that I knew that I wasn’t letting anyone else or myself down when I wasn’t working. And truthfully, and honestly you guys because I never blow smoke. That’s just not how I am. This is something that I’m still working on today. Because even now as a full blown business owner and someone who truly works for her own self, now it in everything kind of relies on her and working as a virtual assistant for other people. It all comes back to me. If I’m not working, the needle is not moving, right? It’s one of those things where I have to show up to work I have to put in the work for for goals and things to happen. But constantly working on my mindset has allowed me to come into each work day has allowed me to get through everything on my to do list without feeling overworked or overwhelmed or burnt out, which is exactly what we want. And it’s exactly the kind of life that I want to live and the kind of life that I want you to live as well. So remember this my friend, whether you work for yourself, or do you work for someone else, know that your life does not depend on your work, but your work depends on you. Meaning you can walk away from your work and it will all be okay. Your work will be there when you come back and you deserve and are worthy of taking the rest and the time off that you need to be able to come back, rejuvenated, inspired and ready to get through your to do list. And that is everything that I have for you today. My friend. I hope hearing my story of going from this Hustle Hustle Hustle mindset to really being more focused and grounded in joy and intention in my work has helped you to realize and be inspired to do the same thing. Take some of the things and the tips and strategies that I use to get my mindset right in your own work. Again, whatever your work looks like for you, right, you don’t actually have to have a job to implement these things and see that they have an impact. And I hope that you leave this episode knowing that it’s okay to rest and it’s okay to take time off. It’s okay to do what you’ve got to do to protect your mental mindset and to thrive in your life. 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