EPISODE 62: [HYPE GIRL CHAT] It’s Okay to Laugh When Sh*t Gets Hard

Listen to me, I get what it’s like when life is SO HARD and SO WILD and sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself is to just. laugh. And hear me on this — you are ALLOWED to laugh when shit in your life happens, you are! I know some people will think you’re crazy or that you are being inappropriate, but you will find that when you choose to laugh over getting upset, you will get through those tough times so much easier.


So laugh. Choose to laugh at your life. Choose to laugh when you screw something up and have to learn from it. Choose to laugh when you want to cry to give yourself the chance to destress in such a wholesome way. I give you that permission slip today, and every day.
















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water, and let’s get into it. Hello, hello, my dudes. And welcome back to another brand new episode of The Living in sunshine podcast if you do not know who I am, my name is Maddie. And I am so grateful and so thankful that you’re here right now tuning in to a brand new podcast episode. Before we get into today’s episode, I do have two quick announcements for you. 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My handle is at living the letter N sunshine and you can shoot me a DM over there. I’m always on Instagram like 90% of the day. I’m on Instagram. And I’m happy to answer any questions that you have about anything that I share in this space. Okay, my dudes. Now that my announcements are out of the way, let’s go ahead and hop into today’s high girl chat, which is all about the fact that it is okay to laugh when stuff gets hard in life. And I’m just going to put a warning out there right now in case you miss the little explicit E on this podcast, there will be a few choice beautiful four letter words. So if you aren’t listening with your children, maybe pop in some headphones, maybe listen to it over naptime. I’m just throwing that warning out there that there are a few four letter words in today’s podcast episode. And I want to make sure that I am not the reason why your child goes to preschool tomorrow and shares new words that they have learned from me with their teacher or their students. Are there other other students in their classroom? Cool, cool. Okay. So today’s hyper chat, you guys is kind of a permission slip to tell you that it’s okay to laugh when shit gets hard. Okay. And if you know me, and you know my story, you know that the last three to four months of my life had been pretty wild, to say the least I was actually just talking to my cousin who recently graduated from college. And long story short, she wants to get a dog. I told her she shouldn’t get a dog. And she she made a comment to me. She’s like, I’m 22 you don’t need to worry about me. I just started laughing because I was like, Okay, you’re 22 and like, Oh my goodness. Because I just I said this to her and I’ll say this to you right now on the podcast. 22 I felt like I was drowning from like the age of 22. Until like this year and I’m 27 like, it just made me laugh so hard because the last four or five years honest to god since graduating from college have been bananas and it’s just been one thing after the other. I mean, I my husband and I moved four days after we graduated from college from Indiana to New Jersey. We lived in New Jersey for three to four years and a 900 square foot apartment and then literally at the end of two only 20, we found out that we are moving from New Jersey to El Paso, Texas, which is like the furthest western point of Texas, if you don’t know where that is like, it’s not Central Texas, okay, like, we’re 15 minutes from the Mexican border. And we moved three dogs and two guinea pigs from New Jersey to Texas, in the middle of a pandemic, we bought a house. And then we immediately dumped like 12 grand into our house, I took a job that I hated. It was a teaching job. I hated it so much that I decided to quit within the first four months. And it’s just like, been a lot, right? Just going back to the conversation that I had with my cousin. It just made me laugh, because she’s like, I’m 22. And I have it all figured out. And I’m like, home girl. Okay, but no, you don’t. But I share this with you, I share all of this with you, sort of the Reader’s Digest of my life. Because throughout that process throughout the last four or five years, you guys, I’ve always found that one thing made all of the hard things so much better. And that one thing is laughter. And I really truly feel as if this is one of the things that people don’t do enough, they don’t laugh at their life enough. And if you follow me on Instagram, you know that I talk about this. People take themselves and their lives way too fucking seriously. Like, it’s not that deep. It’s really not like, it’s simply not that deep. And yes, I understand that there are people out there who are escaping really hard situations, or they’re trying to figure out what they’re doing with their life, or they, you know, just had a baby when they weren’t ready for a baby or they’re suffering a loss. Like there are things in life that truly are deep and hard and difficult to deal with. But even in those situations of my life, because I’ve had situations like that, where things are just hard. Even in those tough situations, I have always found that there’s either a moment to where you can laugh, or just laughing in general at nothing. Makes me feel better. Okay. And I found that when I found a moment to laugh in the in the heart situations, right, whether it was because the situation was so totally ridiculous, or because the situation I was in was just like totally the quintessential like, Wow, just my luck, of course, is what happened to me. I felt so good after a good solid laugh. And I’m sure you’ve either gone through or are going through, or you sense that you’re going to go through a season of just constant shit hitting the fan, I want to give you the permission slip to laugh. Okay. And I actually while I was writing this episode, and prepping for this episode, I did a little bit of research on the science behind laughing during stressful situations. And it’s actually a good practice to do you guys genuinely like according to science, right. And I’ll link an article below that gives you more details. This is where I got a lot of the info. But you guys, when we laugh, we actually allow our body to soothe the tension that we are holding, and it activates and it releases your stress responders in your body. So it might not feel appropriate to laugh at your uncle’s funeral. Or it might not feel appropriate to laugh when your water line and your upstairs bathroom explodes when you’re trying to fix it. But it’s just it’s it’s actually a good thing to do for your body. The other thing that it does is it stimulates multiple organs in your bodies that helps you to relax. Because think about it when you’re in a stressful situation. There’s a visceral reaction, like our body starts to tense. Maybe we feel our shoulder starting to like rise into our ears, we might be starting to feel like we’re getting hot or sweaty. And just laughing allows us to release some of that stress. And it allows some of our organs and our muscles and our stress responders to just chill out. And I wanted to share that with you because I didn’t I didn’t want you to just take my word for it, right? Like there’s actual science behind laughter and how laughter supports our bodies in stressful situations. And I wanted to give you that and I also wanted to give you sort of the backstory of my life because you guys, there’s always something you can laugh at. Like, again, it takes me back to my point of it can be a hard situation, because it’s a hard situation. It can be a totally ridiculous situation that when you take a step back, you’re like, Are you effing kidding me? Of course this is happening to me. Or you can just laugh because, as I say quite frequently and I’ve said this for years, like genuinely since I was probably in high school. If you ain’t laughing, you’re crying and no one wants to cry, right? Like sometimes crying is a good thing. Sometimes we do need a good cry to just get it all out. But I sometimes don’t want to cry so I’d rather laugh because It makes me happier. And it brings me back to our episode of last week of bringing me joy. If I can find a moment of laughter in a hard situation, I will choose to laugh over cry every single day because I just I feel better when I laugh versus when I cry. Maybe I’m alone on this. Maybe you agree with me. But if your life is hard right now, I wanted to give you this permission slip this audible, you know, metaphorical permission slip to know that it’s okay to laugh. People might think you’re crazy people might think that you’re losing your marbles. But you do not have to take your life so seriously all the time. Because life doesn’t need to be serious all the time. It really doesn’t. Yes, there’s a time and a place. Yes, there are moments where it’s not okay to laugh. But I have found that sometimes a good dose of laughter is exactly what you need to get through all the shit that life is throwing you, okay? So whatever it might be in your life, know that if you can find a moment to laugh, then you should do it. Because you’ll find that you’ll you’ll hopefully find that you’re less stressed, you’re less overwhelmed, you can sort of take a step back and look at the bigger picture and just say, What the shit is happening, like what is happening in my life right now, of course, this is happening to me, we’re gonna figure this out, it’s okay to laugh, it doesn’t need to be so serious. And I would argue to say that nine out of 10 things in your life that you’re dealing with right now are not that deep, okay? If you need something to remind yourself, to reground yourself in some real life, just telling yourself, it’s not that deep. Like, it’s really not that deep that my Instagram volume is going down, or it’s not that deep that that crazy crazy came out me and my DMs or it’s not that deep that my computer is no lighting on fire like mine currently is. And it will all be okay, like, I’ll figure this out. But I’m not going to take it too seriously. Because that leads to stress and anxiety and overwhelm and worry and just all of those emotions that we don’t want to deal with, right? So there is your verbal permission slip if you needed it. I always find that when I laugh at things, I am more joyful and I can tackle a hard situation with a little bit more light and airiness than I could if I was getting super bent out of shape about it. Again, I’m not downplaying the serious situations that you might be dealing with in your life. But I do want to remind you that there are moments to laugh and it’s good to laugh. It’s good for your body. It’s good for your soul. And I’m giving you permission to laugh at whatever serious shit that you’re dealing with right now, if that’s exactly what you need to do. And that is everything that I have for you today. My dudes today’s hype girl chat, which means these episodes are short, sweet and to the point so you can take what you hear and activate it and use it in your life with intention. If you find a moment of laughter in your day today, please send it over to me over on Instagram. I would love to hear what made you laugh. Whether it is something serious or something so funny that just made you want to pee your pants. I want to hear about it. So send me a DM over on Instagram. My handle is at living the letter N sunshine over on Instagram and I cannot wait to hear what made you laugh today. If you love today’s episode, be sure to share it with a friend, your sister, your best friend, your coworker, your boss, whoever and get them to subscribe to the podcast because why the hell not right. All right, my dudes. I love you guys so much. I will see you back here again in another week. And until then I am sending you all of the sunshine, good vibes. And I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show or review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.