EPISODE 64: [STORYTIME] My Journey to Finding Joy in Everyday Life

Let’s get a little personal on how I have worked and worked to get to where I am in my journey to joy. It hasnt always been fun or cute, but it has been 100% worth it!













Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water, and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes. And welcome back to another brand new episode of The Living in sunshine podcast. If you are new around here, hello. Welcome to the podcast. I’m so happy you’re here. 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And yeah, I just wanted to make sure you guys do that. So for today’s episode, you guys to round out and wrap up the month of June, we are going to be talking about my personal journey to finding joy in every day, we’re going to be getting a little bit personal, I’m going to be sharing a little bit of my background and how I grew up and how that’s really led me to where I am today in my life and why I live my life in the way that I do. So let’s just go ahead and hop right into it. Okay, so, like I was saying, today’s episode is all about my journey to finding joy. And I think that it’s really important for you to know where I came from, for you to understand why I live the way that I do today. Okay, so we’re going to rewind it just a little bit. And we’re going to explore my childhood, but like not throwing anyone under the bus, not spilling the tea. Um, some of the sort of like, key bullet points, if I were to tell you, I grew up very impoverished, um, I, my mom was a single mom of three kids, and she did everything that she could to take care of us in the best way that she could. And because of that situation of being, you know, from being raised by a single mother, there were many times where my siblings and I went without, and we we went without, you know, the newest phones or clothes or I was given a lot of Hami downs. And we lived in a very frugal way, which might sound disconnected and disjointed to living joyfully now, but you have to the other important thing to know is, I grew up in a very hostile home environment. For the longest time, my siblings and I were abused. It is part of our family history that we don’t really talk about now. We it’s sort of water under the bridge, there’s been a lot of healing that has happened. From there to now there’s been a lot of therapy that’s happened from then and now. And in growing up and living in that kind of environment and an environment where you didn’t I personally didn’t really feel super safe or secure. It really has shaped me to be who I am today. And in growing up in a household watching the adults around me hustling and working hard to provide a good life for their families has also led me and shaped me to be the person that I am today. And knowing that that little background and knowing just a smidge right I’m not here to overshare i There are things in my life and in my past that I do want to keep private. But But knowing that I personally grew up impoverished and in an abusive household for several years of my life has led me to the person that I am today and another sort of key pivotal moment of my life that has created the kind of mindset In life and hustle that I have today is my postgraduate life right. So I would say that my life right fit my life I guess not figuratively because it actually happened. My life quote unquote, got better and easier. My freshman year of high school. And so things are great, beautiful, wonderful. I met Lucas, my husband, my junior year of high school, we went to college, everything was beautiful and wonderful rainbows and butterflies. And then graduation came from college. And my husband and I, he was my fiancee at the at the time, moved from Indiana. And we both grew up in Ohio. So we were Midwest born and raised kids moved from Indiana four days after we graduated to central New Jersey, and we suddenly were 1012 hour away from our family with no support. And I had this five year plan, I all through college, I was like, I’m going to graduate, I’m going to become a teacher, I’m going to teach first grade, I’m going to have a reading dog come to school with me I’m going to have this is my this is what my classroom is gonna look like, like I had it all planned to a tee. Okay. And the reason I had that plan is because I grew up again, if you go back to my initial childhood story, I grew up in an insecure, unstable environment for so many years of my childhood to where having a plan was what I needed to have to feel safe and secure. And like I had things under control, right, because so many of us, myself included, struggle with control issues. And then I graduated. And life happens. And I’ve talked about this part of my life 100 times on this podcast by now. My five year plan blew up in my face like entirely exploded in my face, like I watched it sink like the Titanic into the ocean exploded front of my face. No one wanted to hire me. At the time, my husband and I were only supposed to be in New Jersey for one school year. And everyone wanted me to do sub, you know, sub positions. And I was like, I have bills to pay my student loans were coming out of deferment. And I was just flailing and I remember I’ve had a conversation with a friend. And she’s like, I just feel like I’m out in the middle of the ocean drowning. And that’s how I felt for like, the first two years after graduating from college because my five year plan had blown up in my face. And I felt like I was flailing out in the middle of the ocean, just sort of trying to figure out what the hell I was doing with my life. Right, I was 2223 thinking that I had everything figured out. And then life happens, right, which which happens, that happens to everyone. And my point of telling you this is because that season of my life, and the way that I was raised has really developed me and formed me to be who I am today, which if I were to describe myself in five words, I would say determined, joyful, grounded, anxious, but also hopeful. And I think that those things come and my my journey to being and finding joy in every day stems from those seasons of my life stems from growing up in a situation of, of hostility and instability and scarcity and fear. And also stems from those couple of years after graduation. Coming out of that, you know, sort of rose colored glasses era of being in college and living life and nothing nothing can go wrong. Um, and the reason why I am the way that I am now is because I went through those struggles and I really had to figure out what I wanted and more importantly, how I wanted to live my life and getting to where I am today has been such a trial and error situation of of how do I want to feel and what do I want to be remembered for and what is a priority to me and just thinking back on, on all of the things that I’ve done in my life. I’ve decided and I’ve come to this conclusion that my life I want to be rooted every single day in finding joy and laughing and being grateful and feeling good because I know what it’s like to live in a day to day you know, situation or environment of anxiety and worry and stress and scarcity and fear and and all those things. And you might be like why are you telling me all this like why does this matter to my life? It matters to your life because you can do the same thing you right now listening to this podcast, you beautiful being can do the same thing in your life. I am not special, I do not have some magic power. The reason I live my life now, in my journey to finding joy every single day in my life today is because I actively make the decision on the daily, every day to choose joy, and to choose happiness and to choose the good over the bad. And I oftentimes get questions on Instagram, of how are you dealing with this so well? And how do you have so much energy or, or you know, what’s your secret to being so happy all the time? You guys, it’s not a secret, it’s a decision. It is a it’s an active, logical awareness of choosing happiness, and choosing joy. And recognizing that life can be hard. And recognizing that you can, you can have a pass of hard seasons, you could be currently going through a hard season, you could feel as if you’re going into a hard season, maybe you just got some hard news, or whatever. But you even in those situations, even with a horrible child, you can choose joy every single day, you can have the consciousness to look for it in your day to day life, you can make the effort to to do things like practice gratitude, or write affirmations, or share a moment of joy with a friend, or call your grandparents and tell them that you love them. Or stop and stare at the flowers or the bees or your dogs or your kids when they’re doing something funny or, or exciting or interesting to you. My journey to finding joy in the every day has been this conscious effort to choose joy every day. And again, I share this with you because I want you to see and hear and observe that you can do it too. But it comes down to making that choice, that conscious effort and decision to choose that joy, whatever that looks like for you. Because like I’ve mentioned in previous episodes, Joy is gonna look different to everyone what you find joyful might not be what I find joyful, and that’s okay. Good for you. Not for me, right. And here’s the beautiful thing with joy you guys, is it’s not some exclusive thing. It is so inclusive. Anyone with conscious effort and decision making, can choose joy and can feel joy and can seek joy every single day. Does it take energy and effort? Of course it does is it sometimes harder to see on the hard days 100%. But when you work when you implement the things that we’ve talked about this month, when you learn to laugh when shit hits the fan, when you choose to see and reflect on those moments of joy that the universe present to, you will find that you are also actively every day looking and seeking out joy and feeling joy every single day. And when you do this, regardless of your upbringing or your past or previous life, you are going to be able to feel more grounded and feel happier and live a life that you’re truly obsessed with. And that is something that I 100% to my core, believe that everyone deserves. But it starts with a conscious decision, and daily ever to make that choice. Okay, so take my story, know where I’ve come from here, my my journey and know that it’s not exclusive to me, you can do the same exact thing. And it doesn’t matter if your childhood was better or worse, or the same as mine. It doesn’t matter if your life right now is better or worse or the same as mine. You are able and you are capable of seeking joy every single day. But you’ve got to remember it’s a decision. It’s a choice. And it takes discipline. But all of those things you already inherently have. And as long as you use them, you can have the same journey to joy and feeling and seeking out joy every single day just like I do, because I’m not special. And I say that with so much love and compassion towards myself and towards you. So take my story, use that as inspiration and encouragement to do the same kind of joy seeking in your life. And if you had any major takeaways from today’s episode or or any part of it really spoke to you, please please, please take a screenshot of today’s episode. Go post it to your Instagram stories and tag me. I cannot wait to see who this episode resonates with the most. And be sure to share it with your friend or your best friend or your or your co workers or your mom, whoever. Until next week, you guys which is going to be a q&a app So to be sure to tune in if you want to check out next week’s q&a episode, since June is a five week month, we do have a q&a episode. Be sure to tune in again next week. And until then, my friends I am sending you all of the sunshine, good vibes, and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave, it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode. post it to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.