EPISODE 66: [Education] How to Get Comfortable Getting Uncomfortable 

Have you ever avoided doing something because you know that its going to make you uncomfortable? Maybe it was a conversation with a loved one, a workout that’s going to make you sore, or saying YES to a dream because you know it’s going to be challenging. 

Well friend, in today’s episode we are going to be covering and tackling getting comfortable, with being uncomfortable. Here’s why — you do not grow or get better in your comfort zone, you just don’t. So buckle up and let’s work on getting UNCOMFORTABLE together!

LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:

CHECK OUT THE SUNSHINE SQUAD MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP – OPENING AUGUST 1, 2022:

https://livingnsunshine.podia.com/sunshine-squad

COURSES, MASTERCLASSES, AND MORE RESOURCES:
https://livingnsunshine.podia.com/ 

SIGN UP FOR THE MONTHLY SUNSHINE NEWSLETTER:

https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60f3582949d9247e7d16891e 

FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM:

https://www.instagram.com/livingnsunshine/ 

FIND ME ON FACEBOOK:

https://www.facebook.com/livingnsunshine 

 


EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

 

Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water, and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to another living in sunshine podcast episode. Before we go any further into today’s episode, I need you to know that I am currently recording the July podcast episodes from my closet. This is something that I have seen podcasters do and seeing like podcast support groups suggest is recording in your closet because it’s like a very contained space with a lot of sound muffling and I have to say I can kind of see the difference like not see it, but hear it you know what I mean? So just know that I’m bringing to you all of the July podcast episodes and probably all the episodes going forward from my closet. Okay, can we just like recognize the dedication to the sunshine squad that I have for this podcast for you guys. So it is a brand new month happy July, my friends happy Fourth of July was just this past weekend. And I hope you went out and did something fun. For this month, we actually do not have a theme for the July podcast episodes. If you’ve been listening before you know that each month we tend to have a theme. But I thought it would be really fun to take your feedback, take your needs of support. Take your areas where you have been asking me sort of frequently asked questions and do a grab bag month of podcast episodes that target your specific requests, areas of improvement and things that you have just been asking for me for support on so for our first episode of today we are going to be talking about and I’m going to be teaching you how to get comfortable getting uncomfortable, because sometimes in life to be able to grow, to be able to change and to be able to design a life that we love that fills us with joy and that we are obsessed with. We’re going to come up in seasons or situations or decisions that make us uncomfortable, right. So we’re gonna dive into this, but I just want to send out one reminder to sign up for the monthly sunshine newsletter list. This newsletter list is my twice a month newsletter email list where the first Sunday of every month I send you kind of a roundup of all of the things that are happening in the living in sunshine space, from the podcast, to new resources to new freebies to our membership that is launching in August to masterclasses all of the things that I have to serve you are in this newsletter list. And then just recently, we have also added in the sunshine short, which is kind of a shorter email where I share with you tangible tactical tips on how to live more joyfully or be more productive, or I share some things I’m loving in my life with you. And this goes out on the third Sunday of every month. So if you are wanting tangible tips, mindset shifts, to be first in the know of all things coming to the living in sunshine squad. You’re gonna want to sign up for my email list. I have it linked in the show notes. I also have it linked over on Instagram. If you do follow me on Instagram. And if you don’t, here’s a shameless plug. My handle is at living the letter N sunshine and I would love for you to give me a follow over there. Because on the daily I share free, tangible tips for you to live a joyful life. Okay, those are my announcements. Let’s go ahead and jump into today’s episode. So to explore and learn how we can get comfortable with getting uncomfortable, we first have to know what it means to be uncomfortable, right? What does that feel like look like sound like to you? For you getting uncomfortable might mean broaching some subjects with your spouse that sometimes make you guys uncomfortable. It might make you feel like you’re a little bit squeamish, or like you just want to like escape the situation. Something else that might be uncomfortable for you is working out on the daily because you have kind of gotten to the point in your life where you haven’t been taking care of your physical health. And doing that brings you pain, right like after you start a new workout routine. I know this because I work out consistently. You can be sore the next day and that leads you to discomfort. So as we go through maybe pause the episode here and ask yourself, what does being uncomfortable mean to me? Because it’s going to mean something different to everyone right? For some people public speaking is something that makes them entirely uncomfortable. Whereas for me, I would love literally nothing more than to stand on a stage in front of hundreds of people and talk to them and teach them and hype them up. like in real life, like, that’s a huge dream of mine. But for some people that makes them wildly uncomfortable. And it’s important that we know this because getting comfortable with being and getting uncomfortable is a completely tailored to you situation, it’s not going to look the same for everyone. Here’s something that I need you to know about being comfortable. You guys staying in our comfort zone is a survival tactic. Right? Think about that. We stay comfortable in life, because we know it’s safe. And we know that we won’t get hurt there. Whether we mean hurt emotionally, physically, mentally, whatever it might be, we stay in our comfort zone, our brain encourages us to stay in our comfort zone, because it knows that it’s safe there, it knows that we can survive within our comfort zone. But what happens when we do this is we tend to get stuck in our comfort zone for too long. And then what happens when we’ve been in our comfort zone for too long is we stopped growing, we start challenging ourselves, and we stop improving. And sometimes, and I’ve heard this on another podcast, if I remember the title, I would 100% Shout them out. But I don’t remember what podcast that was. When we get comfortable. And we stay comfortable for too long. We actually start to feel discomfort. We start to feel bored or get bored or contentedness for what we are doing for the life that we’re living. Right? When we stay in our comfort zone for too long, we start to get uncomfortable, because there’s nothing exciting staying in our comfort. There’s nothing exciting in our comfort zone when we’ve been there for too long. And as humans, right, biologically, we need something to stimulate us. But if we’re constantly living in our comfort zone, that stimulation isn’t happening, and then we get bored and we become uncomfortable. Does that make sense? Sorry to interrupt the show my dudes. But I have something so exciting to share with you that I need to tell you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to officially announce that starting in August of 2022. We are opening up and launching our first ever living in sunshine membership. I am so pumped for this membership because it is going to be a way for you and me to hang out on the daily and literally become virtual best friends. Starting in August, the sunshine squad monthly membership is opening to everyone. And I am so excited to have you join me in it with two monthly coaching calls led by me daily check ins, exclusive discounts and opportunities and the hype girl text thread coming back for members only you are going to want to get in on this amazing community. Right now we are in beta launch with 15 Amazing founding members. And the breakthroughs that these women are having in this space in just this first month of beta launching is inspiring and honestly makes me emotional just thinking about it. You can find all the information that you need on the sunshine squad monthly membership by checking out the link in the show notes. Or you can head over to my Instagram page which is at living the letter N sunshine. And in the membership highlight I have all the information Q and A’s in details that you need to feel confident in joining this membership. Be sure to mark your calendars for August 1 of 2022. So that you know when you can jump into this amazing community with me. Again, I cannot wait to see who joins us in this membership. Be sure to check out all the details in the show notes are over on Instagram, and I cannot wait to officially welcome you to the sunshine squad. So how do we get comfortable with getting uncomfortable, right? Because getting uncomfortable as we know can be really scary. Because our brain is saying alert alert. This isn’t safe. This isn’t the you know we’re not surviving. We could be in danger like don’t do this. So don’t get uncomfortable, right? How do we get comfortable getting uncomfortable? Well, my number one tip to you, my friend is to start small, literally so small, and choose things that are low risk, or that you know will not you know, develop or create or cause a dangerous, uncomfortable situation. So let me give you an example. Last summer, something that I was noticing is I was constantly waking up every single night on like routine on a pattern almost at two o’clock in the morning. And what I would do at two o’clock in the morning to sort of get myself to go back to sleep was pick up my phone and I would sit there and I would lay on my phone for like 1530 minutes, but then I had a harder time going back to sleep. So instead of doing anything crazy or radical, I moved my phone out of my bedroom. And for some of you you might think oh my god not having my phone in my room at night like that stresses me out. I hear a lot of times from moms or caretakers that not having their phone with them freaks them out because what if there’s an emergency, I totally honor that. Make it even smaller, move your phone to the opposite side of your room instead. So you can’t initially grab it whenever you wake up right and it’s not the first thing that you you grab You wake up in the morning, that’s a small change, that’s a small thing that we can do to get uncomfortable, and lean into that discomfort. So we can grow and instill habits and routines that support us instead of Starbucks. So once we make those small changes, once we start small, we can build from there. So maybe you want to become a runner, maybe you say, I want to train for a marathon, well, you’re not going to go out on the first day of your training schedule and run a full marathon. That’s not how you would do that, at least, I would hope that’s not how you do that. What you do is you start by running maybe a mile and walking for half a mile and running a mile, and then half a mile, do you see what I’m saying? Then the next day, you run maybe two and a half miles, and you build from there. It’s the same thing with building up a tolerance to being uncomfortable, okay. It’s kind of like exposure therapy, the more we do it, aka, the more we get uncomfortable, the easier it is to do and live in that discomfort because I promise you, my friend, you will grow when you are uncomfortable. Yes, there’s going to be some situations, decisions and experiences that you’ll have to go through that feel really uncomfortable. But on the other side of that discomfort is growth, peace and clarity, I promise you. And here’s the tricky guys, the trick to doing this is finding the line and standing on that line, without going over it too frequently. And by this I mean finding the line of this is my max, this is the max of discomfort that I can handle right now, I’m not going to cross it, I’m not going to fling myself over it. And I’m not going to cross this line too frequently. And I want to explain to you why. And I’ve mentioned this before on the podcast way back in episode 41. In our new year’s resolutions episode, when we do too many things that make us uncomfortable all at once we freeze up and do nothing. Right. This is again, another survival tactic our brain turns on, because it doesn’t know what to expect. And it kicks in that instinctual habit of freezing, pausing, taking in all the information. But then what happens? What happens physically, is we stopped doing anything. So while our brain is trying to process all of these changes that we’re making, all at the same time, it literally shuts down our physical ability to respond or do anything or work or keep going. So instead of finding your line of discomfort, and running right past it and staying beyond it, what you need to do is find your Line, Respect it stand on it almost every single day, but not pass it too frequently. Because when you do that, when you pile on lots of things that are making you uncomfortable all at the same time, you will shut down, you’ll get overwhelmed and you’ll quit and you’re not gonna want to do it anymore, which totally makes sense. So here’s what you need to do to really get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Again, first and foremost, start small. Think about your long term goal. Maybe it’s running a marathon, maybe it is going back to school, maybe it is broaching some tough conversations with your spouse, maybe it is starting a business. Instead of taking on all of those things that freak you out and that make you uncomfortable. Pick one that you know is going to push you that you know is going to stretch you but you know is also going to grow you Okay? Know and work to find your limits with where we are sort of discomfort threshold and respect them without becoming complacent. Right? getting uncomfortable, takes a knowingness of what you can handle and a knowingness of where you can push yourself. And if you’re like, Maddie, I don’t know. I don’t know what my threshold is. I’m not that in tune with myself yet. Okay, here’s a challenge for you. Take my phone in your bedroom example. And I know I talk about this a lot. But I promise you, it’s going to change the way you sleep. Sleep tonight, and for the rest of the week with your phone outside of your bedroom. See how it makes you feel? See if it makes you uncomfortable? Maybe it makes you a little bit worried, maybe a little bit stressed, maybe a little bit anxious. But in the morning, take note of your level of discomfort. Was it something that you think you could sustain? Or was it something that you think was like whoa, buddy, outside of my realm of comfort zone that I can even sustain I need to bring my phone back in my room. If you are the second that gives you a little bit of a self recognition and an idea of what your discomfort threshold is. Work to find that line and respect it while not becoming complacent. Because the more that you step on that line of discomfort, the more you will grow and the more you will get comfortable with being uncomfortable. And that is everything that I have for you today my friend and I hope you loved today’s episode. Be sure to follow this podcast give it a follow on Apple podcasts or wherever you’re listening and and share your takeaways from today’s episode over on socials. I would love to see what your takeaways were, how they served you and what you thought I will see you next week for another brand new episode. And until then I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes, and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave, it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.