EPISODE 67: [Hype Girl Chat] Who Are You Behind in Life? Literally No One.

Here’s a gut check you need to hear right now — feeling behind is a self-inflicted choice. I love you, but I mean this so deeply. You are not behind ANYONE in your life, because it’s YOUR life! How are you behind? Who are you behind? Literally no one.


In today’s hype girl chat, we dive into this idea of being “behind” and break it down for really what it is — a totally made up, convoluted idea that we make ourselves feel all on our own. 















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. I am so grateful. So thankful and so excited that you are back tuning in to a brand new episode. If you are new to the show, because I am also in a season of discovering new podcast episodes. Hey, hello, hi, my name is Maddie, the voice in person behind living in sunshine, you can find me over on Instagram at living the letter N sunshine. And I’m so thankful that you are here on this hair podcast. We are all about encouraging and inspiring and giving you the tools and resources that you need to design a life that fills you with joy and a life that you are obsessed with. So if you just found the show, I hope you decide to stick around, give it a little follow or subscription based off of where you are listening. And I can’t wait to see you back next week for another episode. So in case you missed last week’s episode, I want to tell you that this month in July, we actually do not have a theme of the month. Typically we have different things from mindset or joy or living intentionally or goal chasing. But for July, I decided to take your most frequently asked questions and put them into podcast episodes because this podcast is all about serving you the listeners and the members of the living in sunshine squad. So all of July is dedicated to you guys, and just being a support of me my big dreams of what I’m doing in this space. And as a thank you for supporting the podcast in this way. Before we jump into today’s episode, I do want to remind you to sign up for the monthly sunshine newsletter, which has now become a twice a month newsletter from me that goes directly into your inbox on the first Sunday of the month, you can expect a full scope newsletter that shares with you new resources, a freebie what’s going on on the podcast, maybe what you miss things that are coming soon for the living in sunshine squat and all of those good things. And then on the third Sunday of the month, I send out what I am calling the sunshine short, which I dare you to say that five times quickly because I can hardly say it one time very slowly. But the sunshine short is a short little email from me into your inbox on the third Sunday of the month, where I share with you mindset shifts, tangible tricks that you can use in your own life, things that I am using to boost my productivity and all of the things in between. So if you want to stay up to date on all things living in sunshine, or just get a little bit of support, encouragement and service on the third Sunday of the month, go ahead and sign up for the newsletter list now via the link in the show notes. Okay, so today’s episode, you guys is going to be a mix of hype and straight up tough love. So if you are not in the right headspace or heartspace for that, come back to this episode later. Like I totally get it, I totally honor it. Which is why I’m giving you the heads up. Now, this episode is going to be what you probably need to hear. But if you just had like a mental breakdown or an anxiety attack or feel like the world is coming for you, you might want to come back to this one later. Because it is going to be tough love hype all of the in between. And I just want to give you that heads up just in case you’re not in the right headspace to consume this kind of episode today. Now let’s talk about this concept of quote being behind and I’m using the little air quotes in life. And how made up of a concept. This is like actually, when and where did this mindset come from? And who do I need to go fight because they made this up like this idea of being behind. Now. I want you to hear me very clearly right now. Okay, you’re listening. I’ve been here before too. And I’m not here to paint the picture that I’m this like beautiful, wonderful, perfect little butterfly and have never fallen victim to this mindset of quote unquote, being behind because I have and I also want to point out just how convoluted of an idea that this is. So in case you are a perfect, beautiful, wonderful butterfly who has never suffered from feeling behind in life. Let me enlighten you on how this tends to feel. Now this idea of being behind tends to feel like you aren’t doing enough or that you should be doing what other people are doing or that you are just behind ain’t like you haven’t accomplished enough things yet in your life, no matter how old or how young you are, what you do for a living, where you live, or any of that, like, it’s just this sense of not living up to what everyone else is doing. And honestly, I think the root of this evil is social media, like 100%. Hands down, I believe. And I truly think that this idea of being behind stems from the stories in the pictures and the life that people paint on social media like Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok. And this is not me coming out to like, you know, pull these things down or whatever, say that they’re horrible, and you shouldn’t use them. I love Instagram. But I really believe that we see everyone’s highlight reel, right, we see all of the good things that people are doing in their life. And it makes us as an individual, looking at that person’s life feels like we’re not doing enough, right. But here’s the thing with feeling behind. It’s almost always self inflicted. I’m gonna say that again. Here’s the truth with feeling behind. It is almost always a self inflicted feeling. Rarely, and I’m saying this rarely. Because I have friends who have people in their life family members, mostly who tell them, why aren’t you married? Why don’t you have kids? Why do you look that way? Why do you dress like that? Why aren’t you know making a million dollars a day, right? There are people and you might have people in your life? Who make you feel behind. But very rarely does that happen? Right? Very rarely are there people in your life saying or making you believe that you are behind? Where you should be in life. And if you have these people in your life, girl, oh my gosh, it is due time that you set a boundary with them, and tell them that their words are hurtful and detrimental to you and your self belief. And that they can either keep them to themselves or peace, the fill in the blank out like, seriously, truly, I mean this, if you need me to do it, I will. But it’s time if you have these people telling you and making you feel like you’re behind, it’s time to set a boundary and respect that boundary to your gravestone. I swear. Because these words aren’t helpful, they’re hurtful. And you are allowed to tell these people that they’re being hurtful, okay. But that’s the thing with feeling behind. It’s very rarely coming from other people, right. And it’s most often something that we tell ourselves, because of what we are observing other people do it. And again, I really truly believe that this stems from how connected we are online, because people are only going to post about the fact that they just had a baby, or they’re just getting married, or that they just got a new job or that they just bought new clothes or that they got a new car, right? People aren’t going to post the unsexy bits of of life. I mean, unless it’s me, because I share all the time on social media to like, really just paint the picture that I’m a real human and I’m normal. And I am like not exceptional, because I’m not you guys, people are almost always going to post the best parts of their life. Right? They’re not gonna post that their kiddo is, you know, behind on, you know, learning their letters, or they’re not going to post that they set the goal for themselves to lose 25 pounds this year, and they’ve only lost two pounds and that they are like way behind on that backhoe, no one’s gonna post that kind of stuff, okay? But I need you to listen to me on this. If you want to constantly feel like you’re never enough or never doing enough or are not successful enough. You can continue to believe that you are behind in life. But again, it’s a choice. You can choose to continue to believe that you’re behind in life. Sorry to interrupt the show my dudes but I have something so exciting to share with you that I need to tell you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to officially announce that starting in August of 2022. We are opening up and launching our first ever living in sunshine membership. I am so pumped for this membership because it is going to be a way for you and me to hang out on the daily and literally become virtual best friends. Starting in August the sunshine squad monthly membership is opening to everyone and I am so excited to have you join me in it with two monthly coaching calls led by me daily check ins exclusive discounts and opportunities and the hype girl text thread coming back from members only. You are going to want to get in on this amazing community. Right now we are in beta launch with 15 Amazing founding members and the breakthroughs that these women are having in this space in just this first month of beta launching is inspiring and honestly makes me emotional just thinking about it. You can find all the information that you need on the sunshine squad monthly membership by checking out the link in the show notes. Or you can head over to my Instagram page, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And in the membership highlight I have all the information Q and A’s in details that you need to feel confident in joining this membership. Be sure to mark your calendars for August 1 of 2022. So that you know when you can jump into this amazing community with me. Again, I cannot wait to see who joins us in this membership. Be sure to check out all the details in the show notes are over on Instagram, and I cannot wait to officially welcome you to the sunshine squad. Or if you are ready to love where you are, and what you’re doing, and the season of life that you’re in. And believe that you are totally a badass in life. It’s time to start focusing and working on focusing on your own story. If you are ready to love where you are, what you’re doing and believe that you are where you are meant to be. It’s time to work on focusing on your own story. I’ve said this before on Instagram stories on the podcast, in emails all of the places, right? When we focus on somebody else’s life, we start to try to live their life instead of living our own. And that’s not fair to you, or the person you’re trying to be like, okay, when you start to focus on someone else’s life, and you compare your life to theirs, you are no longer living your life. You’re trying to live that person’s life. And that’s not fair, not to you and not to them. So if you are ready to stop feeling so behind in life again, which is a totally made up concept. Like that’s not a real thing. No, who are you behind? Like, who are you behind Susan on Instagram, no one you are not behind anyone. Okay. So if you’re ready to start loving where you are, loving what you’re doing, and loving the season that you’re in, it’s time to start focusing on your own story. And the best way that you can do this probably the most impactful way that you can do this, the way that I have done this in my own life is to mute those people who you continue to compare yourself to, right on social media, you can do that there are settings that literally say, hide this person stories, unfollow this account, you literally unfollow them if you want to mute their posts, so you don’t see them anymore. Because when you don’t see that person’s life anymore, you literally can’t compare yourself to them because you’re not seeing what they’re doing. And I’ve done this, I’ve 100% done this to multiple people who I was comparing my success to where it wasn’t my business, my body to my mindset, my relationship to I recognize that I was starting to compare and feel behind to that person and where I was in my own journey. So I quieted the noise. I silenced it, I muted that person, and it’s done wonders. Okay, so that’s my tip to you. Mute the people who are making you feel behind and do that after you recognize that being behind in life is a completely convoluted made up idea. And probably eight out of 10 times is a self inflicted feeling. You don’t deserve to feel behind in life my friend you do not you deserve to feel like you are in the right place for you right now. Because you are okay. And that is everything I have for you today my friend short, sweet and to the point exactly what hype girl chat is. These episodes are your weekly hype that you need to light the fire in your belly to move on in your journey and live a life that you are obsessed with. If you had any major takeaways from today’s episode, please give it a screenshot and post it to your Instagram stories and tag me so I can see what you took away from today’s episode and talk with you about it over on Instagram. I love hearing from you guys about the podcast I love when you share your thoughts how it hit you how it provoked critical thinking in you. So definitely shoot me a message as well. And I would love to hear from you about this episode. Until next week, my friend I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.