EPISODE 72: [STORYTIME] How I Built The Mindset I Have Today

Today we dive into how I have gone on this journey to building and cultivating a mindset of joy and happiness. I share some of the biggest things that I feel as if I have done that have helped me to grow, change, and have the mindset that so many people want in their own life. 

Give it a listen & let me know which of these things that you are going to implement in your own life!
















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. I am so glad that you are here today and continuing on our train of podcast episodes all about mindset. If you are new to the living in sunshine podcast, you probably do not know that each and every single month we have a new theme that we tackle and dive into on a more deeper, deeper than surface level kind of topic of conversation. And our conversation for the month is all about mindset, and how to design a mindset of joy and gratitude and love. So that we can design a life that we are obsessed with because that is everything that we’re all about and living in sunshine space. But before we jump into today’s episode, I do want to remind you to sign up for the monthly sunshine newsletter. This is my free bi weekly newsletter that I send out on the first and third Sunday of the month. These newsletters are tips and tricks, things that I’m loving behind the scenes of all things living in sunshine, all of the information that you need to know plus a monthly freebie that you vote for over on Instagram, that I send it directly into your inbox as a sweet little love note from me to you. So if you are wanting to sign up for the monthly sunshine newsletter, even though it’s not monthly anymore, it’s five, it’s bi weekly, it’s twice a month, you can do so by clicking on the link in the show notes or by finding the link over on my Instagram bio, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And I would love for you to join the newsletter family. Okay, my friend info transparency, which I always tried to do, I have decided to change today’s podcast episode. Literally right before I clicked record because I felt I wasn’t feeling super called to do what I initially had planned for today. So we’re just going off the cuff for today’s storytime episode. And I am going to be sharing with you how I built the mindset that I have today. Because it is a common question that I get over on Instagram. It is a question that I get within the sunshine squad monthly membership community which you can find info on also linked in the show notes. And it is something that people oftentimes ask me to talk on, within their own memberships or courses or trainings or whatever. And that is how I built a mindset of a mindset that is rooted in joy, intention, gratitude, and more importantly than anything else, obsession with the life that I currently have. And this you guys has been a long time coming and it hasn’t been something that’s always been cute or fun or pretty or sexy or Instagrammable at all. If you are new to this space, or you just don’t know my background or my story, I am a fellow medicated misses. That is my coin, my own personally coined term for lovely ladies who are also taking medication to help support their mental well being. I struggle with generalized anxiety and a lot of trauma from my childhood that has really manifested itself into extreme worrying, anxiety, panic attacks, all of those things, maybe a little bit of obsessive compulsive disorder, all of those types of things. So how have I knowing that I struggle with a lot of different mental health things and just a traumatic childhood? How have I built a mindset now, that is one of joy, intention, and happiness, right? What have I done? So that’s what we’re going to talk about today. And really, you guys I want you to know that a lot of this has been a long time coming. I’ve truly always been a very happy go lucky kid. I remember very clearly in elementary school whenever I was sad or upset, my teachers instantly knew because whenever I wasn’t bouncing off the walls, people could just see that I was upset which was really frustrating to me. And it’s something that I’m still working through now as a frustration of feeling as if I always have to be happy. Kind of like the the ont in and can So if you’ve ever seen that movie, The one whose emotions directly impact the weather, like, I feel like her were I’m always expected to be happy or 100%, or whatever. And that is clearly something I’m still working on now. But it’s one of those things that while I’ve always had this general air of happiness and joy, internally, I have always really struggled with feeling unworthy or unloved or unsafe, and anxious or, or worried or any of those things like I wasn’t enough. And to be at the point in which I am today, which I literally just this morning, wrote in my gratitude journal, I’m grateful for life, it’s just so good to get to that point has been a true trial and error of figuring out what I love. What brings me joy, and how I can infuse more of those things into my daily life. Okay, so to get to this point, has first and foremost been a journey. Obviously, I feel like I’ve said that 100 times. But what has been part of that journey? Firstly, personal development, and personal development to me, you guys. It’s something that I talk about a lot in this space. It’s something that I talk about a lot over on Instagram, because I contribute so much of my mental growth and mindset growth to consuming personal development that speaks to me, and speaks to my dream. And if you are anything like I was a few years ago, where you feel as if all personal development is like those giant blue hardback books with gold writing that are written by old, dusty, crusty white men, that is not the truth. All personal development is also not entirely faith based. Yes, you will find a lot of Christian writers in this space, but they’re not all Christian writers. If you need recommendations for personal development, writers feel free to shoot me a message on Instagram, I’d love to share with you, who I personally love as someone who is not really at all faith based. I don’t mind reading people who are, you know, ruining their writing in Christian faith, but it’s also not my vibe, personally. So if you need those recommendations, feel free to let me know. But personal development and regular consumption of personal development has been such a huge part of my journey to building the mindset that I have today. And that is something that takes practice and discipline and consistency. And it’s something that I’ve turned a bunch of people onto, because I truly believe that it’s one of those things that just can change the way that you think about yourself or think about the world with such little effort plus reading is really good for you anyway. So I always recommend personal development to as many people who will let me recommend it to them. Another big thing that I feel as if I do that a lot of people don’t do when it comes to self improvement or working on my mindset or growing my mindset to be one that is very much in the growth mindset is I try my very best to learn every single day. And I love the quote of if you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room. I love that so much because it’s so true. How will you ever grow or improve or get better or become the best version of yourself, if you’re constantly surrounding yourself with people who aren’t yet on the same level as you or more importantly, on the level that you want to get to? And I very much work daily, weekly, monthly to put myself in situations where I’m not the smartest person in the room, I don’t have all the answers. Because what happens when you do that when you intentionally implant yourself in environments or groups or situations or opportunities, where you get to be around people who know more than you, you are able to steal some of their beliefs, steal some of their knowledge, steal some of their confidence, and instill it inside of yourself. And I have always been the kind of person even growing up and you guys I grew up in a community where everyone always wanted to just hang out with the same people and and stay behind the white picket fence and stay at home. And it just never made sense to me. I always had been the kind of kid in person and adult who wanted to be in situations where she knew absolutely no one. Like I intentionally went to camps and like said yes to things in school, where I knew I wouldn’t know anyone because I just wanted to meet new people and get fresh perspectives and learn new things. And I feel as if that is something that not enough people do is they stay safe. They stay comfortable and they stay in the room where they’re the person who has has the most knowledge. And that is a really great way to stay stagnant and your mindset and to never grow in how you view the world or view yourself or believe in your goals or your dreams or whatever you need to practice. And this is something I do as often as I can practice being the learner and practice being the person asking questions, and putting yourself in new situations where you can learn new things. Because when you do that, like I said, you steal and consume, and absorb and just soak up so many things that you didn’t have before you stepped into that situation that truly helped you grow your overall mindset, whether it is mentally or intellectually in systems and strategies that you use, it is so impactful when you do that. And I feel as if that is something that I have really done throughout my life is putting myself in situations in new environments and new opportunities, where I don’t know people and I have to put myself out there and get uncomfortable and ask questions, so that way I can take that initial next step to becoming the person I’ve always wanted to become. So sorry to interrupt the show minute, but I have some exciting news I need to share with you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to share it that the sunshine squad monthly membership has officially launched to everyone. I designed this membership to help all of my happy hustlers, Joy seekers dream chasers and purpose pursuers have a space where they can feel supported, encouraged and inspired every single day to get after their most ideal life. Included in this membership are two coaching calls led by myself daily check ins to help you stay on track and accountable in your joy seeking weekly q&a opportunities for me to give you tailored coaching and guidance in your journey. And the HIePRO text thread is coming back for members only. And the best part about this, it’s only $20 a month. Literally, I made this membership for you, the girl who is ready to take control of her life, live a life of joy and obsession, and also help you get connected with other like minded women who want the same exact thing that you do. So go jump into the membership. Now you can find all of the information that you need and the link to join us in the show notes. Or you can go find more information over on my Instagram, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And I cannot wait to see you in there. Okay, so the next thing that I really feel as if has truly helped my journey and truly helped me in my journey to have the mindset that I have today. On top of consuming personal development. And always asking questions and putting myself in new situations is the step that I took, inherently intentionally instinctually. To put my pride aside, and to recognize when I needed help. And this is a really big one that I know has resonated with a lot of you over on Instagram. This is something that I’ve talked about before on the podcast. This is specifically not specifically related to me starting therapy. But knowing when it was time for me to put my pride aside and ask for help was a huge step in the right direction for me to build the mindset that I had today. And the reason why this is so important in was such a huge impact on my own life was because I grew up in a family and maybe you have as well, maybe you did as well, where you were kind of expected. And if this wasn’t taught to us, it was what my little kid brain pursued, that you had to figure it out on your own. And if you weren’t able to figure it out on your own, then you weren’t successful, or it meant that you weren’t capable, or that you weren’t. You weren’t able to do that. And that was a sign of weakness. And I grew up in a town in a home in a family where we rarely ever talked about the things that were wrong. And we rarely talked about getting help and getting help. That just was taboo. And as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that you aren’t weak and that you don’t need to be so prideful when it comes to asking for help. And I went into this year into 2022 with the knowledge of I’m going to set my pride aside and this you know childhood belief that I have carried with me that asking for help is a bad thing and ask For the help that I really freakin need, because I’m tired of feeling anxious all the time, I’m tired of feeling overwhelmed all the time, I’m tired of feeling exhausted all the time, because my anxiety is causing me to lose sleep and to have nightmares. I’m tired of it. And I tell you this, because if you are someone who was raised in a similar situation that I was, or you have this pride of, I can figure it out on my own, I can do it all on my own. And you’re still struggling years later. Clearly, what you’re doing is not working. And I say that with so much love and care, because I needed to tell myself that I needed to recognize that my self diagnosis and my self care, and how I was, you know, treating my anxiety wasn’t working, and I needed to get additional help. And this kind of step in the right direction has helped my mindset so much, because it has triggered me to do other things like go to therapy, and take medication and have open conversations with the people in my life, and to become an advocate for mental health and wellbeing for other people. And just all of the other things that I do throughout my day to day life. And all of those things contribute to my overall mindset, my overall positive, sunny disposition, if you would, and I do believe that the mindset that I am in now is 100 times stronger and better and more intentional than it was a year ago. I mean, than it was six months ago when I first signed up and asked for help, right. And it’s been these things, it’s been a culmination of these things, and little things and more things and big things that I don’t have time to talk about on this podcast episode, that have really helped me to build the mindset that I have today. But those three things are tangible things that you can steal from me, because you have pushed play on this podcast episode and you have become the learner and you have not put yourself in a situation where you’re the smartest person in the room, steal these things from me, find personal development to listen to you find opportunities for you to learn and get mentorship from other people who are more intelligent and more experienced, and you put your freakin pride aside and go ask for help if you need it. And just watch because for me, all of these things over the years have culminated to allow me to have the mindset of gratitude and joy and genuine love and obsession for my life. And you deserve to have that as well. So while this is a storytime episode, I want you to steal those things from me, please take them I’m giving them you don’t even have to steal them. I’m giving them to you. Go find a personal development book, go sign up for a seminar, go find someone to talk to you and ask for help. If you need it with your mental health, you are going to take these steps I’m telling you to take these steps to help yourself build the same similar mindset that I have today. And that is everything I have for you today. My dudes, I love you so much. I’m so grateful you’re here seriously, truly forever. I mean that if you had any major takeaways from today’s episode, please please, please go give it a screenshot and post it to your Instagram Stories tag me so I can share it with my people as well. And please, if you would go leave a rating or review wherever you’re listening to the podcast that seriously helps the living in sunshine podcast grow and reach more women just like yourself so they can also steal these tips and become a learner and grow their own mindset. Until next week, my friend I am sending you all the sunshine, good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show or review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode. post it to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.