EPISODE 73: [EDUCATION] How You Can Train Your Brain to Always See the Good

Ready to #OwnYourChaos that is your life while also staying in a grounded, joyful mindset? Today’s episode I am giving you my best kept tips & tricks to help you do just that! You CAN train your brain to see the good, think positively, and have hope that you will get to your biggest dreams and goals you ever wanted.















Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes and welcome back to another episode of The Living in sunshine podcast. I am so glad that you are here tuning in for yet another episode. And if this is your first episode of the living in sunshine podcast that you are listening to Hello, my name is Maddy and I am so glad that you’re here truly I mean that thank you so much for showing up. Today, my friends, we are wrapping up our month long series of talking about mindset with a another brand new podcast episode all about how you can train your brain to see the good over the bad. Now before we jump into today’s episode, I want to remind you to go sign up for the living ascension newsletter, this monthly newsletter, scratch that it’s not monthly anymore, it’s twice a month, I keep saying monthly. It used to be monthly for the longest time and then starting in July, it became bi weekly. Anyway, who cares? It is a twice a month newsletter where I give you tips and tricks to help you be more productive to work on your mindset to live in the sunshine, I give you behind the scenes things happening within the living in sunshine space. I give you discount codes, freebies, behind the scenes things, all of the things that you would want to know about living in sunshine. Plus, on the third Sunday of the month, I send you a little sunshine short for me, which is typically filled with things that I’m using new strategies to try tips to help you do things like beat the summer slump, a whole bunch of different things. So if you are ready to become part of the newsletter family, go click on the link in the show notes or over on my Instagram bio, which is at living in sunshine and sign up for it today. And I cannot wait to see you on there. So my friends, today we’re going to dive into how you can train your brain to see the good over the bad. Now, let me front load this episode with this. And I know I say this all the time. But in case this is your first ever episode with me, I want to make sure it’s very clear. And it’s very well known because I don’t want anyone coming to me telling me that I practice toxic positivity because that is not what we are about in this space. When I say we’re going to learn how to train your brain to see the good over the bad. What I mean by that is we’re going to train your brain how to stay rooted in joy and stay rooted in a positive space, even when ish is hitting the fan and your life. If you follow me on Instagram, I say all the time to hashtag own your chaos. And that is what we’re all about. I am not wanting to say to brush your crap under the rug and pretend like it’s not there. Because that’s not productive. And that’s not intentional, it’s not going to help anyone at all. It’s just going to sit there and fester and smell bad. And then you’re going to have to throw the rug away. Right. So what I mean by this is we’re going to talk about and learn how we can train our brains to deal with the stuff that’s going on in the world or in our personal lives, while also staying in a space of gratitude and joy. Does that make sense? Okay, I hope so. So here’s what we can do as people to help train our brains to see the good or the bad. Okay, first and foremost, and this is one that you’re all going to roll your eyes on if you have listened to enough episodes, but I promise you, I promise you, I promise you, I promise you. It does so much good for you. And that is to have a daily gratitude practice. Okay, okay, before you groan and you roll your eyes, I promise you, I promise you it’s it. I say it intentionally. You guys, gratitude is a practice. It’s something that you have to do every single day to see the benefits of and that is why I talk about it at least add on at least one episode a month, at least. Probably more than that probably like half or the majority of these podcast episodes. I mentioned gratitude in some way. But the reason for that is because not enough of us are practicing gratitude every single day. We’re just not. But what happens when we do and what happens when we get into the practice and the more importantly, consistent practice of gratitude. The more we feel gratitude naturally and innately every single day when we wake up in the morning, and for me my gratitude practice and I have an entire podcast episode dead hated to how I practice gratitude. I think it’s in episode like in the 40s, Episode 40, somewhere in there, I’ll link it in the show notes just to be safe to keep it really easy for you. I go into depth as to how I practice gratitude. But my friend, gratitude is as simple as taking five minutes at most, and writing down three things that you are grateful for. And I have come up with this little formula that really makes it super simple. So the things if you’re like, What do I even write down? Ask yourself this. What has made me smile has made me laugh has made me joyful, or has made me proud in the last 24 hours. Okay. So again, if you’re wanting to implement a gratitude practice into your day to day routine, I love to practice gratitude in the morning, you could also do it in the evening, you can honestly also do it whenever you want, you could easily do it while you’re taking a poop or in the morning after your morning coffee. Here’s what to ask yourself, if you’re unsure as to what to write down in the last 24 hours. What has made me smile? What has made me laugh? What has made me joyful, or what has made me proud in the last 24 hours? And what I do is I simply answer those questions. And I write down three of the things that come to my mind. Because I can almost promise you with a little bit of thought, even on your worst day, you can come up with three things that have made you smile, laugh, joyful, or proud in the last 24 hours, even if it’s something as small as my coffee was the perfect temperature yesterday morning before I went to work, and my boss chewed me out. And I had 100 meetings, and I stepped in dog poop and I forgot my lunch. Okay, that little point of gratitude holds so much weight when you give it the attention it deserves. So that is your first way to train your brain to see the good or the bad, because like we talked about in episode 71, right back at the beginning of the month, what you focus on what you choose to think about your brain is going to see more often naturally on its own, because we’re training our brain to be in tune with those things, okay. And your daily gratitude practice is going to be the thing that tells your brain to focus on the good every single morning or every single evening, if you like to do it at night, or when you’re taking a poop on the pooper it’s fine to that is going to be what tells your brain to focus on the good thing number two that you can do to help train your brain to focus on the good or the bad. And this is such a good one if you always feel like you’re not doing enough or that you are behind or that you don’t have enough in life. And this is a reminder that I even need sometimes you guys is to remind yourself of where you were before. And by that I mean, think about yourself a year ago, think about yourself six months ago, or even a month ago. Are you in a place that you want? wished you would be? Right? Hello, Gacek. I know for me, so often I’m like, Oh, I’m not, you know, at this space in my business, or we’re not living in this space in my life. Or we’re not, you know, we don’t have the funds that we want or whatever it might be right. It could be whatever you want. I’m not where I want to be in life. But oh, shoot, I am now where I once wished I would be right. And speaking personally for me. I’m now my own boss, I work from home full time, I have my own thriving business. And a year ago, that’s all I ever dreamed of having you guys we become so accustomed to checking off the boxes and moving on to the next thing and saying, Okay, I did that check moving on. Okay, check, new goal, new dream, new thing, new level to get to new thing to achieve. And we rarely stop to think about and reflect on the fact that we have what we want wanted so badly. And we are we are in a space in life that we one time could only dream of having. And this is a very natural thing to happen. We in our society, especially in Western culture, are taught trained and forced to believe that there’s always something better out there, we always should be achieving For more we always should be growing on and moving on to the next thing, which to a certain extent, don’t get me wrong, is a good thing to do is a good thing to believe and be trained and learned into practice. But what it also does is it trains us to believe and it trains our brains to believe that what we have is never enough and where we’re at is never going to be good enough. And so I want you to take the time today to remind yourself of where you were before right now, whether it was a week ago or a month ago or a year ago or 10 years ago. At one point in your life. You probably wished and dreamed and hoped and longed to be where you are right now. And when you refocus in that way, you start to realize all of the goods that you actually have in your life right now, instead of focusing on all the things that you don’t have right now, so sorry to interrupt the show my dude, but I have some exciting news I need to share with you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to share it that the sunshine squat monthly membership has officially launched to everyone. I designed this membership to help all of my happy hustlers, Joy seekers dream chasers and purpose pursuers have a space where they can feel supported, encouraged and inspired every single day to get after their most ideal life. Included in this membership are two coaching calls, led by myself daily check ins to help you stay on track and accountable in your joy seeking weekly q&a opportunities for me to give you tailored coaching and guidance in your journey. And the HIePRO text thread is coming back for members only. And the best part about this, it’s only $20 a month. Literally, I made this membership for you, the girl who is ready to take control of her life, live a life of joy and obsession, and also help you get connected with other like minded women who want the same exact thing that you do. So go jump into the membership. Now you can find all of the information that you need and the link to join us in the show notes. Or you can go find more information over on my Instagram, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And I cannot wait to see you in there. And finally, my friend, the last thing that you can do to train your brain to see the good or the bad is to remind yourself and to keep in the front of your brain as often as you can, is that you can do. And you can handle hard things in life, whatever hard looks like for you. Because your heart is going to look different than my heart, which is going to look different than your best friends hard. But whatever your heart is, you can handle those things and you are built to get through those things. It might not feel like it, it might not seem like it. And it might truly be a belief you have that the universe or God or fate or whoever, whatever you believe in is out to get you right it’s quote out to get you. And they’re putting you through this this hard season or this hard journey on purpose. And there is a purpose and the purpose behind your heart is to teach you something new. And I don’t say this for you to believe that you have to struggle to be successful or to have a life that you want. Or that things have to be hard for them to be able to be something to be proud of. But I want you to remember, and I want you to work on knowing and believing to your core, that you can do difficult things and that you are built for difficult things. When we’re little we fall down and you know what we do, we stand right back up. If you watch a baby learning to walk, they fall down 100 times before they start to walk it step by step consistently, as we are a little bit older, and we learn how to ride a bike, we as children fall off the bike a few times before we learn how to write it right. As time goes on, though, and as we get older, we start to lose that belief in ourselves that we can deal and handle difficult things. And we start to shift and morph that belief to be, I’m not meant for this, I can’t do this, I need to stay where I’m at things are just hard for me. And that is such a lie that you are telling yourself because truly, innately biologically to your core, you are meant and are able to deal with those difficult things. And this reminder, this belief is something that when you hang on to it, you are going to be able to build a mindset that takes on new challenges with intention with purpose and with a theory, a good one a good theory that no one can stop. And that you can use and tap into to build a mindset and a life that you love to get through those hard things. So again, as a recap, the way that you can train your brain to see the good or the bad is to implement a daily gratitude practice. And again, I know we’ve talked about a lot I know I’m rolling my eyes at myself. I know I talk about gratitude a lot. But I promise you it is the key. The key is to train your brain to see the good or the bad. Thing number two is to remind yourself of where you were before. Meaning remind yourself that the fact that you might have a life that you once dreamed of and longed for, and to be grateful for the space that you’re in right now. And then thing number three is to remind yourself and start to believe to your core that you can do hard things and that you are built to hand do hard things, whatever hard looks like for you because your heart is going to look different from other people’s. And that is okay. And my friend that is everything that I have for you this week. I hope you have enjoyed it today’s podcast episode, if you did, please go give it a shout out over on Instagram and share your biggest takeaways. If you tag me on my instagram at living the letter N sunshine, I will be sure to reshare your biggest takeaways and connect with you over there, which I love doing. And then if you would please take just two to three minutes to go leave the podcast a review or rating wherever you’re listening to whether it is Spotify, or Apple or Google or wherever. Please go do that because that helps the show reach new ears of more women just like yourself who are wanting to live in the sunshine. Until next week, my friend I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes. And I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.