EPISODE 75: [TIPS&TRICKS] 3 Habits I Implemented that Changed My Life

Are you looking to improve your habits and steal some of my favorites from me? Then you are in the right place! In today’s new episode I am giving you the rundown of my TOP 3 BEST HABITS I have implemented in my life that have seriously changed my life.  


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Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water, and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes. And welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. My name is Maddy, and I am so glad that you’re here. Once again, for another brand new episode all month long, we are tackling the topic of habits and routines and how we can use these to intentionally elevate our lives so that we can live a life of joy and a life that we are obsessed with. Before we jump into today’s episode though, I do want to remind you of a super fun and totally free tool that I just launched a few weeks ago, which is the four persona personality quiz that you can take right now. My friend, I made a living in sunshine themed Buzzfeed quiz style like tool, whatever you want to call it, it’s just a quiz, right? And you can take it right now, if you head to living in sunshine.com/survey. It’s also linked in the show notes. This personality survey is going to tell you which of the four living in sunshine personas you are. We have a happy Hustler, Joy seeker purpose pursuer and Dream Chaser. And once you take the quiz, and you fill it out completely, and you get your results, I will be sending you tailored content, tips, strategies, resources, tools and trainings that you can utilize in your own life that will serve you based on personality that you are, my friends, this personality survey has been such a hit so many of you have loved figuring out which of the four personas you are in once you take this survey, be sure to head to my Instagram profile. At the very top I have pinned a little graphic. And then you can share which of the four personas you are to your own stories, and tag me so I can see that you took the survey and know which personality you are, again, just head to living the letter n sunshine.com/survey. To take that personality survey now and discover which of the personas you are. Okay, so let’s dive into today’s episode, because this is one that I have been getting tons of requests on. And just general questions generally pop up around this general topic of which habits I implemented, that genuinely changed my life. And I know that it’s like kind of a heavy thing to say like, oh, it changed my life. Like, I feel like sometimes maybe people throw that around too much. But I promise you, these three things did change my life. And they changed my life at different points in which I implemented them. So by that I mean, I did not just one day wake up and decide to do all of these things on the same day. Like one of these things, I started back in like high school. Another one I started just this year, another one I started a few years ago. So these have been implemented over time, which I think is a really important reminder to send out because as we talk about habits and routines, I never want you to feel like you have to change your whole life overnight, based off of what I share here, maybe what I share on my blog, maybe in an email or on my Instagram, wherever I’m a huge preacher and proponent for small changes over time, that will make a big impact over time, okay, when we try to just like dump all of our old habits and routines overnight and like kind of quit them, quote unquote, cold turkey, it doesn’t work. And it doesn’t work for very good reason. We tend to get really overwhelmed or it’s too much too fast. Our brains don’t know how to cope with that change. And so just know that of the three things that I that I share with you today have quite literally been in the making for like 10 years. I’m 27 I probably started one of these, like when I was like, I don’t know, 13 or 14. So take that take that math as you would and know that these things have been slow going over time, but have genuinely changed my life. So Habit number one should not be a surprise and that is implementing a daily gratitude routine. I know I know. I know. I know. I know. I talk about this all the time, both on Instagram and on the podcast specifically, but it genuinely truly you guys I could not not include this one in this list because it has changed how I process my day, how I go through my day, how I start my day, generally just how I live my life day to day, it’s changed every single piece of my life in such a positive way. And I have episodes on episodes on episodes of how I practice gratitude, why you should practice gratitude, all of that good stuff. But this habit specifically, the reason it’s changed my life, is because it routes me every single day. And I truly believe that it is the biggest factor as to why I am rooted in such a positive, joyful mindset. Truly, there has been science, endless surveys, research, all of those types of things on the impact of gratitude, and just the positive effects and impacts it can have on a person’s life. And it doesn’t need to be huge. It doesn’t need to be crazy. I have read some research where it’s like we had our people do like 15 points of gratitude every single day, twice a day. And I’m like, Oh, my God, who has the time for that, literally. I would have to quit that research study, because I don’t have time for 15 points of gratitude every single day. Could I do it? Yes. Do I have time for it? Absolutely not. Keep it simple. Three points in the morning, what has made you laugh, smile proud or happy in the last 24 hours, write those things down. The reason this has impacted my life in the way that it has, is it because it shows my brain and it has trained my brain to notice things that I’m grateful for, as I go throughout my day. And when I’m in the mindset of lack or scarcity or chaos or worry or anxiety, any of those negative things i in so easily. Now, after doing this for years, this habit, you guys, I implemented probably back in like 2019. And it’s 2020. Now, so three years ago, since implementing this habit and doing it consistently over years, several years at this point, when I am in that that lack mindset, that negative mindset, right? I am able to say hold on. We don’t need to stay here, we can leave this mindset let’s let’s figure out like what are we grateful for? What are the good things that have happened to us, there are good things that have happened to us, and will happen to us. And let’s just reflect and think of those things and focus on those good things. Because when you focus on the good things, more good things come back to you. In this gratitude routine of literally is like five to eight minutes in the morning, you guys has helped me to be in that frame of mind every single day. And for someone who used to really, really, really deeply struggle with worry and anxiety and overwhelm this which has genuinely changed the way I operate on a day to day like fundamental level. And I believe it has impacted other people who are around me because I bring that positivity and gratitude and joy to the other people I interact with throughout the day and improve their lives as well. So Habit number one that I’ve implemented that has truly changed my life. No one’s surprise, a daily gratitude practice. So sorry to interrupt the show my dude but I have some exciting news I need to share with you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to share it that the sunshine squad monthly membership has officially launched to everyone. I designed this membership to help all of my happy hustlers, Joy seekers dream chasers and purpose pursuers have a space where they can feel supported, encouraged and inspired every single day to get after their most ideal life. Included in this membership are two coaching calls led by myself daily check ins to help you stay on track and accountable in your joy seeking weekly q&a opportunities for me to give you tailored coaching and guidance in your journey. And the HIePRO text thread is coming back for members only. And the best part about this, it’s only $20 a month. Literally I made this membership for you, the girl who is ready to take control of her life, live a life of joy and obsession and also help you get connected with other like minded women who want the same exact thing that you do. So go jump into the membership. Now you can find all of the information that you need and the link to join us in the show notes. Or you can go find more information over on my Instagram, which is at living the letter N sunshine and I cannot wait to see you in there. Okay, habit number two is the wine that I have mentioned that I started way, way, way, way way back actually at the end of my eighth grade year in middle school. So I was probably 1414 or 15 I turned 16 at my freshman year of high school. I’m an older I was an older student I was always a year older than all of my friends. So this is probably I was probably 14 or 15 You know, at this point, but the habit that I implemented was a consistent workout routine. Now, the reason this has changed my life is because I come from a family of honestly, obesity, a lot of my extended family are overweight or unhealthy. For a very long time, I grew up with my, you know, adult figures in my life who were extremely overweight. And I knew that I didn’t want that for myself. And, honestly, because you guys know by now I am teaching transparency all the way. I was a very overweight, like middle schooler and all of my friends were, you know, middle school girls who were super thin and wore a size double zero. And I wasn’t, and I genuinely, and this is really sad thinking back on it, but I’ve really changed my mindset, which is actually Habit number three, but we’re gonna wait on that. I literally told myself in the middle of eighth grade that I was tired of being the fat friend. And while the reason to change wasn’t rooted in the right place, now looking back on it, it has changed my whole life for the further better. And I got really consistent and really honed in on exercise and eating well, and taking care of myself and getting enough sleep. And really just finding exercise and workout routines. That made me happy. And I liked doing. And that was really when my love of home workout started way back when I was like 14 or 15. I remember, I remember stealing my aunt or my mom’s my mom and my aunt actually lived together growing when I was growing up, it just made sense for our family. And someone had these at home Biggest Loser workout DVDs. And I remember stealing them and putting them into my computer when like reading a CD or a DVD, it was like in your computer still, that drive was still on your computer. And I would work out and do those exercises in my teeny tiny bedroom, and just do them every single day after school. And I remember got to the point where I told my friends, like they would be like, Hey, can we go do this after school? Or hey, do you want to go to Starbucks after school? And I was like, Yeah, but I need to go home and work out first. And I remember, I remember going home and a friend coming home with me. And she like, laid in my bed and doing homework. I worked out. And it sounds so funny to be no but you guys that habit truly has changed my life. Discovering the importance of exercise, and intentional movement is what I like to call it has been integral to my overall like health and fitness, but also like health and wellness. I have said this on my Instagram story so many times. And it’s not an uncommon thing to say. But exercise for me is cheap therapy. Like don’t don’t get me wrong, I still go to therapy. I still have a therapist who I see once a month. But exercise is my daily kind of check in with myself of how’s your mindset, what are you doing? Do you need to work out any frustrations. And now, you know, 1314 years later of being in a consistent workout routine, and don’t get me wrong, like I haven’t been perfect. There’s been times in my life where I don’t work out at all. There have been times in my life where I eat like crap for way too long. But having that habit always in my back pocket and knowing that I can get into that kind of routine has gotten me to the point of where I have a healthy way of regulating my emotions, of taking care of myself of making sure that I am fighting that family gene of obesity and overweight and chronic illnesses. Things like high blood pressure, cancer, all of those things run in my family. And while I know exercise isn’t like the you know, end all be all of those, you know, ailments? It does help, right? It seriously helps. And so the second habit, you guys that I implemented again, way long ago when I was 14 or 15. Honestly probably for the wrong reasons right. Trying to not be the fat friend is not the best reason to start working out. But it was the thing that motivated me to get my button gear has changed my life. And this is another one of those things that I know has changed the lives of the people around me because and I hope mom you don’t mind that I use you as an example. But my mom started to work out and started to get healthy and exercise and Ryan, because she saw me do it. And it’s so amazing to me how the habits that we implement for ourselves can have that direct impact on the people that we love. And both my mom and my aunt now have healthier, happier longer lives. Because one of us in the family started to do something like exercise consistently, and just No. And the reason I tell you that is because you can have that same impact on someone that you love, you can have that same influence on the people in your house, or that follow you on Instagram, or you see day to day at work, you can inspire people to implement habits that support them, just by doing that for yourself. So that is Habit number two that I implemented a consistent workout routine. Now in my you know, late 20s, I’m 27, I turned 28. In April, I try to work out at least four or five times a week. And then twice a week, I like to do like a stretch, or a yoga flow, something like that, to just stretch and move my body and work on flexibility and mobility, because that’s a really important part of getting older as well. So definitely, if you haven’t yet, figured out what your home workout routine or just workout routine in general might be, that might be a habit that you need to implement, as well. And just watch who you influence when you implement this into your life. All right, habit number three that I implemented that changed my life. Now, this one is definitely one that I had been working on within the last year, right. So we had gratitude, which has been a habit now for like two or three years, exercising, which has now been like a Oh gosh, like 1415 year thing. And now we are talking about a habit that I recently and when I say recently, I mean within the last year, implemented into my life, and it has really genuinely changed my relationship with myself. And that is the habit of speaking to myself, like I would speak to a friend. Now again, this in my opinion is nothing new, we have probably heard this before, I have read several books where the author encourages this I have seen, you know, research and all of these things say that we should do this right? Like if you would not say this to a loved one, you should not be saying it to yourself. But how often do we actually do that? Right? How often do we actually have the self discipline and the self control? To not look ourselves in the eye in the mirror and say something horrible? Or mean? Or? Or, you know, what are those called like a put down, right? If you ever went to Camp over the summer, you have to do like, you know, for every put down, you have to do three push ups. If you know what I’m talking about, you know what I’m talking about. But how often do we do that? Right? We hear oh, you should talk to yourself, like you would talk to your friends. But then we’re never actually implemented. But this last year, especially in 2022, I have been really working to get myself to do this every single day, if not enough throughout the week to where I can say oh yeah, I told myself that. And that’s exactly something I would say to a friend. And it’s so fun. It’s it’s intentional. But it’s kind of funny, because the way I do this is out loud. And so. So Lucas, my husband works from home. And he will hear me say these things to myself that he’s just like, he’s coming to my office a few times. And he’s like, Who are you talking to? I’m like I’m talking to myself. It’s just, it’s funny to me, because I say things like, oh my gosh, I am the greatest person at my job ever. Or oh my gosh, I’m so proud of myself for doing that. Or you go girl, you look so good today, like things that you would say to your friend like things that you would say to your best friend or your sister, right? But I say them to myself and I say them out loud. Because for me, I am an auditory learner, I listened to things and I, when I listened to things, I process them much easier than when I read them. So I like to say, you know, my positive ups, my push ups to myself, My compliments to myself out loud. And I just I laugh because I’m sure if I was Lucas, I would think that that is just so funny. But this habit, you guys is something that has genuinely changed how I speak to myself and how I treat myself how I view myself and think about myself how I feel about myself. And I can almost promise and guarantee that there is at least one person listening to this right now, who would probably say, Man, I could probably feel a little bit better, and treat myself a little bit better than I am right now. Right? And this habit of telling myself positive affirmations or compliments, or intentionally celebrating when I’ve done something really well has just changed and has been the mindset shift that I have needed to take for a long time. I mean, obviously you guys I told myself when I was 14, I needed to start working out so it wasn’t the fat friend like that is just a clear indicator of how long my like self negative self talk has been a thing right? Ever since implementing this and doing this consistently over time. It has changed the way that I view myself. i less than less now look in the mirror and say things like, oh my god, you need to lose weight or oh my gosh, you have a double chin or oh my gosh, you like need to wash your face, or like just other mean things that we can say to ourselves, right? This habit of talking to myself and speaking to myself, like I’m speaking to a friend has helped me to gain this kind of relationship with my body, and my mind and my spirit and my heart in a way that I’ve never been able to do before. And that is why this habit has genuinely changed my life. And it’s not hard to do. If you you know, get a raise at work, or you can play a project on time, or you do a task without getting distracted. Or you just feel really friggin hot in the outfit that you’re wearing today. Tell yourself that, like talk to yourself. If your best friend walked into a room and she looked smoking, you would not tell her she looks smokin, right? So tell yourself that you look smokin hot today and like take a selfie and own the fact that you look really hot, right? You are allowed to speak to yourself in this way. And I have found over and over and over over almost a year of doing this for myself. It makes a huge impact. So there are your three habits that I have implemented that have changed my life. I hope that at least one of these habits encourages you to either try to implement them, to check them out to see if they work for you. Or to find a habit that you can implement in your own life that will have the same impact on your own life. 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