EPISODE 78: [EDUCATION] The People Around You Impact Your Energy More Than You Think

Whether you are aware of it or not, the people in your life are going to impact your energy in one way or the other. This could be a good thing, this could also be a negative thing. Regardless, it’s up to YOU to decide who you want to be in your life and the impact they have on you. 

In today’s episode, I share with you how you can protect your energy and shed light on how the people in your life are shaping it way more than you think they are. 

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Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddy. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes. And welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast where we chat all things intentional, joyful, living, the real and the raw parts of life and everything in between. I am so excited that you’re here listening to today’s episode. And if you are new, be sure to click that little plus sign if you’re listening on Apple podcasts, or the subscribe button if you’re listening on Spotify or any other platform. That way you get notified and it instantly downloads every new episode of The Living in sunshine podcast to your phone, so you never miss a new episode from me. Now I cannot believe that I am saying this. But happy October I feel as if spooky season has officially commenced it is October 5 When this podcast is going live. Honestly, truly transparently. I’m recording this in September because Lucas and I my husband Lucas and I are going on a trip to visit my mom and a few weeks. And I am doing October and November really, really early. So I’m like batched way ahead of time of that trip. So I don’t have to record while I’m there. And I feel like spooky season has already started. I feel like all the small businesses that I follow, all of the cute girls that I follow on Instagram are like decorating for Halloween. Like we’re all just having it start early. And honestly, I’m not mad about it. I’m really not. But because we are in a brand new month, we have a brand new theme on the podcast that we need to cover. And that theme for this month is going to be talking about energy. Now I don’t just mean having more energy, I mean, yes, having more energy, but protecting your energy and increasing your energy and using your energy to create the life that you love, and a life that you are obsessed with. Because that is one of the number one things that I am all about. And I hope that you become all about as well. So like I said, all month long, we are going to be talking about in tackling this idea of energy, I’m going to be sharing with you how I always always have the energy that I do things that you can do simply unintentionally to boost your energy. And today we are going to be talking about how the people in your life. Those people who you are either willingly and knowingly or unknowingly subconsciously allowing in your life and how those people impact your energy, way more than you think. But before we dive into today’s episode, I wanted to remind you of a really fun resource that is totally free that you can take advantage of right now that will continue to serve you for the better going forward. That resource is my brand new well kind of new personality survey that I created for the living in Sunshine Community. I have linked to this free survey in the show notes below. It’s also linked over on my Instagram profile. If you follow me over there. And this personality quiz is quite literally 10 questions. It’ll take you maybe 60 seconds to complete. There are things such as Gilmore Girl references and Taylor Swift gifts if that is your vibe as it is mine. And once you complete this survey, you will discover what living in sunshine personality you are, and why it’s your superpower. And because I’m me, I’m not just going to leave you hanging and be like, okay, cool. Now you know this going forward, once you submit that survey, and you get your result in your inbox, I’m going to be sending you resources, trainings, opportunities, things that you can use and implement within your own life based off of your superpower. So that way you can improve and grow and continue to design a life that you love. So you can go right now to the show notes down below or to living the letter n sunshine.com/survey. To take that 62nd personality survey right now. And when you get your results please send me a DM over on Instagram so you can tell me what your personality is. I cannot wait to hear from you. And every single time you guys take this survey, I get so excited because I cannot truly cannot wait to serve you going forward in this way. So let’s go ahead and dive into today’s episode and let’s talk about the fact that the people around you and when I say around you I don’t just mean like the stranger standing behind you at Starbucks. I mean like those people who you bring in and let be let them be part of your life. How those people around you and in your life, impact your energy and how they might impact your energy more than you might think. Now first and foremost, I have to give a shout out to one of my favorite personal development, self growth authors, Jensen cero. I initially heard about this kind of idea and belief and awareness in her book you are about us, if you are someone who was looking to get started on a personal development, or PD, as I like to say, journey in your own life, I always 100% recommend that book, you are a badass again by Jensen cero, to anyone who’s looking to sort of get their feet wet with personal development, I 100%. No. And remember being the person and know what it’s like to be the person who’s very, like anti personal development. I started reading and consuming personal development in a time of life where I didn’t really feel like I needed it. I was happy I was content, I liked what I was doing. I was, you know, my life was great. And I didn’t really think that I truly needed it. And then I found Jen’s book, and I read it. And well, I listened to it on Audible, because I’m an audio book kind of person. And I read it and I was like, Holy crap. She’s talking to me personally. And that was really the book that triggered my own journey and consuming and diving in and learning and reading all of these different types of personal development books. And this idea of the people impact the people in your life impacting your energy came from that book. And it really gave me the mindset shift and the, I guess awareness as to how people in my own personal life, were impacting me either for the better, or maybe not for the better. So in this book, Jen shares the story about how she used to be super poor, she lived in her car, I feel like she talked about how she was maybe addicted to drugs, I don’t remember if it’s 100% True. But she was in this season of life where she was surrounded by people who were happy to stay in that low place, and how she was starting to recognize and wanting to start to take back control of her own life and get to a better place. She was like, I was tired of couch hopping, I was tired of living in my car, I was tired of always feeling like I had no money, I was tired of treating myself that I the way that I was. And it took me realizing that I would never be able to make the growth and make the changes that I needed to make, until I started to shed the dead weight of people in my life, who were completely happy to stay where they were. And when she said that I totally resonated with it. Because there have been multiple times in my life where I have wanted to try something new, or put myself out there or go do something that the people in my life didn’t really understand. And it took that recognition to realize that so long as I am engaging in these relationships, and I use the word relationship neutrally. I’m not speaking within a like romantic sense. So long as I was in this room, these relationships with people in my life, who were happy to stay where they were, who were not interested in growth in any way, I knew that I wasn’t going to grow as well. And when Jen shared her story, and how she was trying to do the same thing, it really resonated with me because it’s true. My dude, I need you to remember that you become who you surround yourself with. Okay? And let’s think about that in a neutral story in a neutral situation that we all experience, right? Let’s rewind our brains and our own personal timelines to remember when we were growing up, okay. So by from the time that you were, you know, a little kid to a grown adult, and you’re leaving school, or I’m sorry, you’re leaving home to probably go to college or graduating college and you know, you’re going out to the universe to do your own thing on your own. On your own time, you’re, you’re leaving the nest, right? During that time that you’re at home, you more than likely held the same beliefs, the same political ideologies, the same diet and habits, the same health and fitness routines, the same maybe living style, all of that, as your parents or as your family as or as whoever you lived with. Right? Maybe you didn’t live with your parents or your family, you lived somewhere else, you probably more than likely adapted to what you were observing and to what you were surrounded with. So if you grew up in a house, such as myself, where you were raised to believe that it was okay to go out into the world. You guys literally my mom had a rule. I have a brother and sister. They’re both older than me. My mom literally had a rule growing up that she told us all the time that we were not allowed to go to a college or university within a three hour radius of home and under so many people that we grew up with, we grew up in a very small town. So many other adults were like, oh my god, like, why would you teach your children that? Like, why are you doing that, like, we want our kids to stay home, and we want our kids to stay close to home. And that’s why so many of my fellow graduates from high school went to the like public university in our state. But regardless, because my mom raised us to have that belief, I now and growing up, always look forward to a new thing, going to a new place moving exploring, going on Life Adventures, right? That comes from surrounding myself with my mom, who believes in the importance of getting away from your comfort zone, getting out of your comfort zone, and exploring new parts of life. And knowing that you can’t do that, when you stay within your own comfort space and your own, you know, little bubble is what we always call it growing up, it’s the same thing, maybe you have a similar situation, it could be even something as small as like the brand of peanut butter that you buy at the grocery store, you probably buy that jar of peanut butter, because it’s what you bought in what was in your home when you grew up, right? It’s the same thing. So when you surround yourself with certain types of people, you start to become them in some way, you might start to speak similar to them, you might start to use the same, like sayings or phrases that they do, you might also start to believe in the things that they believe it’s because as humans, we adapt to the environment that we are in. And this is a really great thing. But this could also be a really negative thing, if you are surrounding yourself with the quote unquote, wrong people, okay. And so let’s just put this into the situation that we are here to talk about wanting to grow, or protect your energy, or do something new, okay, if you are surrounding yourself, with people who are comfortable, where they’re at, they have no desire to grow, they don’t care about things that you want to care about, it’s going to be way harder for you to make those changes if you continue to let those people be a part of your life at the current state in which you are. So again, let me just unpack that last phrase that I just said, if you continue to let them be part of your life at the current level in which you are, I’m not telling you that you have to cut these people out of your life. Okay? If you feel as if that’s what you absolutely have to do to get to where you want to go, then you probably do. But that’s not a requirement. What I’m encouraging you to do is to separate yourself, create distance, or set boundaries with those people who are preventing you from growing and having the kind of energy that you want to have. Because again, because we are humans, and we are so adaptable to our environment, which is a survival tactic. You guys, there’s nothing wrong with that that’s a good thing. You are going to be unable to grow. Because those people are going to make you maybe think, well, what’s the point? What a waste of time, everything is fine. Why do you want that? Right? They start to maybe say things or act in a certain way that really does bleed into our own belief and our own mindset. So we need to be really aware of who we are spending time with and taking sort of active information and using that information that we’re taking in to say, okay, person A is really impacting my energy in this negative way. Because they always make me doubt myself in my abilities whenever I talk about wanting to save money, or get a new job or start a business or leave my relationship or whatever it might be. And on the flip side, you might be taking any information that person B is a great person to be around because they’re always excited for me, they always want the best for me, they encouraged me to try new things, this, that and the other. So as you take in this information from the people around you, we need to and you need to be cognizant enough to take stat of who is positively impacting your energy and who is maybe not so positively impacting your energy. So sorry to interrupt the show minute but I have some exciting news I need to share with you right now. Are you ready? I am so excited to share it that the sunshine squad monthly membership has officially launched to everyone. I designed this membership to help all of my happy hustlers, Joy seekers dream chasers and purpose pursuers have a space where they can feel supported, encouraged and inspired every single day to get after their most ideal life. Included in this membership are two coaching calls led by myself do daily check ins to help you stay on track and accountable in your joy seeking weekly q&a opportunities for me to give you tailored coaching and guidance in your journey. And the HIePRO text thread is coming back for members only. And the best part about this, it’s only $20 a month. Literally, I made this membership for you, the girl who is ready to take control of her life, live a life of joy and obsession, and also help you get connected with other like minded women who want the same exact thing that you do. So go jump into the membership. Now you can find all of the information that you need and the link to join us in the shownotes. Or you can go find more information over on my Instagram, which is at living the letter N sunshine. And I cannot wait to see you in there. Now I want to just be conscious and recognize and shed light on that this might not be very easy, because the people in your life who might be negatively impacted your energy might be family, right? It might be your mom or your dad or a sibling or your aunt who you live with their grandparents who you really respect. And so making that space and setting those boundaries might be a really difficult thing to do. But what you need to ask yourself is what is more important to me, maintaining the same kind of relationship that I have right now with this person, or going on the journey or experience or goal chasing, Dream chasing journey that I want to go on for myself, right? You need to ask yourself, is it more important to me to maintain this relationship with this person that I genuinely love? Or is it more important for me to set that boundary with that person, so I can love myself a little bit more to get to where I want to go. And here’s my last thing on this subject for you that I really want you to remember, I want you to remember that you can and you will with dedication and effort. Find the people that you can have in your life, who will continue to lift you up and encourage you to do better. They will ignite your energy, they will infuse you and inject you with more energy because they’re the right kind of people, my friend, my biggest tip to you, if you are in a space of life, where you are wanting to become a certain kind of person, or start a certain kind of thing, or say yes to a certain kind of goal or dream. You need to find the people that you want to become and stay close to them. Right I’m going to say that again. You need to find the people that you want to become and stay close to them. Well, I always heard the phrase stay close to the fire. Because when you stay close to those people, you stay close to their fire, their fire will start to ignite and infuse and inject into your own fire. And you will start to become those people because again, the people you surround yourself with are the people who will directly impact your energy and inspire you to get to the place that you want to go. So work to find those people put the energy and put the effort and put the intentionality into finding those people. And I’m just gonna plug this right here. I know I already like plug this into this episode with my little mid roll that I have about the membership that living in sunshine. Sunshine squad monthly membership is the exact place where you can find these people because all of the women within our membership are the kind of women who are wanting to probably do all of the things that you are wanting to do, or they’re already doing them. So if you’re struggling to find people that are who you want to become, check out the membership because 99% of the time I can promise you that there’s someone in there who is who you want to become okay and that is all I have for you today my dudes I hope you loved today’s episode. If you did, please please please go give it a screenshot post it on Instagram and tag me share your biggest takeaways. 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