EPISODE 96: [EDUCATION] What I Think it means to love yourself

Listen, I love that loving yourself is becoming a more accepted and trendy thing. I truly do! But here’s the thing, there is a HUGE PART of self love that I think a lot of people fail to know or even realize. In today’s episode I share with you my hot take on what self love is to me! 


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Maddy 0:08 Welcome to the living in sunshine podcast if you don’t know who I am, my name is Maddie. And I am so excited to have you tuning in to our weekly podcast episodes, where we chat all the things from tips and tricks to funny stories from my life that have helped me to truly live in the sunshine. In this space, we are all about encouraging, inspiring and giving you the tough love that you need to hear sometimes to realize that you are totally made for more than what you currently have in life, and that you hold the power to make the changes that you need to level up and live your best self. So buckle up, grab some water and let’s get into it. Good morning. Good morning, my dudes. And welcome back to the living in sunshine podcast. I am so happy that you are tuning in for another brand new episode of the show. If you are new here Hello and welcome. I would love to know how you found the show. Did someone send it to you? Did you find it on Apple? Did you find me on Instagram and you finally decided to check out the podcast. Any of those things. I’m just so grateful that you’re here tuning in listening to today’s episode. Now since it is the first episode of February, we have a brand new theme of the month to talk about and unpack and tackle. And our theme for February in lieu of it being the month of love right Valentine’s Day all those things, we are going to be talking about self love, all month long things like what I think it means to love yourself, my story to self love and self acceptance, how to work on the relationship with you all of those things, all those ideas we are going to tackle all month long right here on the living and sunshine podcast. Now, just in case you are new to the show. And you haven’t yet heard, we have a super fun personality survey that you can take right now while listening to the show. And when you do, you will find out which of the four living in sunshine personalities you are. So this community is so incredible in that not everyone is the same, right? We don’t all fit into the same box, or the same category or the same personality. And over the years, I’ve really identified four core personalities that I continue to see over and over and over within this space, this living in sunshine space. And so I decided to make a super fun survey to help you figure out which of the four personalities you are maybe you are a purpose pursuer, or a happy hustler. Maybe you’re a Dream Chaser or a joy seeker, whichever one you think you are, you can discover which you actually are and why it’s your secret superpower right now, via the link in the show notes. Once you take the survey and you get your results, you’ll get continued support, encouragement and resources from me that align with your personality and help you to live a life that you are obsessed with. So go take that personality survey now. Send me a message when you get your results and let me know what you are. 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So as I mentioned, all month long, we are talking about this topic and this idea of this theme of self love, right. And I feel like Self Love is something that is a theme, this topic, this idea that has really grown in popularity over the last few years. And it’s something that manifests itself differently in everyone’s life, which is why I wanted to share with you today what I think it means to love yourself. Because it might be a little bit different than other ideas and other beliefs that you might have heard in the past, not to make it sound like I’m special or I’m some this like enlightened being because I’m not. I am just a 27 year old woman who has gone through multiple seasons of loving herself and not loving herself and having really caught positive relationships with herself and really not positive relationships with herself. And I feel like I have this unique experience of and maybe it’s not unique, right? Like maybe I’m not special. Maybe you’ve also had the same experience that I’m going to share but I I feel like I’ve had this experience in life to where I have different versions of what self love and what it means to love yourself looks like. And I want to share it with you today to give you a fresh perspective that you might not have heard before. So to me when when someone says, I love myself, right, if I come to you, and I say, I love myself, and I do love myself, right? Like, I truly believe that the current version of myself is the best, biggest baddest version of myself that I’ve ever had I’ve ever lived through. And it’s amazing, and it feels so good. But when I say I love myself, I mean, I love my whole self, right. And, and when I say that, I also mean I love myself enough to continue to improve and get better, right? To me, loving yourself is not mutually exclusive to also saying I want to get better, like those aren’t two separate things. In my opinion. Loving yourself is also the acknowledgement and the acceptance of wanting to improve yourself, right? You love something so much an item, your home, a pet your child, your, your partner, your partner, your job, whatever, you want them to get better, right, you want them to stay great, and you want them to be great. And that’s the same thing, in my opinion, when it comes to loving yourself. And so when I say I love myself, I mean, I love myself as I am. And I love myself where I’m going, right and I love the entirety of who I am. And what I do. And for me that that includes how I how I feel about my body, how I feel about my mental state, how I feel about my relationships, how I feel about my work, and what I do every single day. Like when I tell you, I truly believe that this version of Maddie fry is the best version of myself, it is the highest on its way to being the most maximize version of me. And I love that I have gotten to the place where I am falling in love and have fallen in love with the process of, of improving myself daily, and loving that journey. And I really think that that’s what self love is it’s not accepting who you are, and leaving it at that. It’s accepting who you are, and loving who you are. And loving the process of making who you are better in the places that you can get better. We have to love ourselves enough to commit to getting better where we inherently know where we need to get better. For you. That might be in a relationship. That might be how you eat that might be a hobby that you want to pick up that might be starting therapy or working on your mental health, that might be making small swaps to where instead of going home and sitting on the couch for four hours you go home, you go for a 15 minute walk and then you sit on the couch for three hours and 45 minutes right. Self love to me is loving where you are now again in everything that you are your personality, your relationships, your work, but also loving yourself enough to get better where you know you need to get better. Have you ever felt like the people in your life just don’t understand the dream that you have on your heart? Or even the desire that you have to be more joyful or intentional or even just plain happy? Like wife is good enough? Why do you need more? Right? Well, my friend if this is you, I have something special just for you. The Sunshine squad community is your go to place for that validation that you’re searching for, to know that you aren’t crazy for wanting more and that you aren’t alone in that desire either. This online community has grown to be filled with amazing joy seekers purpose for sewers, happy hustlers, and dream chasers just like you in the sunshine squad community, you get continued guidance from me that you need to make your dreams a reality, a community of women who get it and the steps that you need to make your life something that you’re totally obsessed with. If you are ready to say yes to those things, you need to jump into the sunshine squad ASAP. And you can do so right now via the link in the shownotes. If you do have questions on what the sunshine squad community is, or if it’s right for you, feel free to send me a DM over on Instagram. I would love to chat with you more about it over there. And my friend I can’t wait to see you inside of the sunshine squad. And the space that I think that my opinion my viewpoint my perspective of this is different than other people is that we sometimes hear this message of self love is loving where you are right now and just accepting it. And if you love yourself enough, you won’t feel the need to change, right? Because it’s already good enough. Like it’s good enough, you have enough, everything’s good enough, you love yourself so much that you don’t need to change. And I see that point to an extent. But I don’t want to villainize this desire for change, just because things are good enough, especially for the women in this community. Because I know, so many of us, myself included, are like, Yeah, my life is good enough. But I want more like, I want more for myself, I want more health, I want more relationships, I want more connection, I want more wealth, I want more stability. And there’s nothing wrong with that, right? I want us to root ourselves in the belief that you can absolutely 100% be the most self loving, confident, accepted person, and still want more. And there’s nothing wrong with that there’s nothing to feel guilty about. Or as if you aren’t content enough, because you feel that way. Or that there’s something wrong with you because you want more, there’s nothing wrong with that we are allowed to want more for ourselves. And we being sentient beings can decide to make those changes for our own selves for our own lives, we can decide to start a gym routine, or only eat whole foods, or go to therapy, or tell our husbands that we want to spice things up or have a better relationship with our kids or a family that we are estranged from, right? Like, we have the choice to make those choices, we have the right to make those decisions, even if we are the most confident, self loving human being. And I really think that that’s where my belief and my sort of perspective of self love is different. You are allowed to love yourself wholeheartedly, and also want to improve yourself, and my hope, my desire for telling you this, so that you can go forward through the next, you know, three, four weeks and through the rest of the year and through the rest of your life, knowing that the pursuit of self growth doesn’t have to end anywhere, right? Like you can get to where you want to go, and then decide I want more. And that’s okay, you are allowed to want more for yourself, you’re allowed to want to grow and optimize in all areas of life, and not have that be something you have to feel guilty about. Or like you’re you’re never going to feel satisfied enough in life. You know, there is this happy medium, in my opinion, between loving where you are, and also wanting to improve. And I think that that’s a really fresh way of thinking about self love. I love who I am. But I also love myself enough to do and be better for myself. And for the people in my life that I love. You know what I mean? And again, I’m sure there will be people out there who say, you know, this girl is preaching for lack of satisfaction, or gluttony, or selfishness or whatever, right? Like she’s teaching people to never be content in life. And yeah, that’s exactly what I’m doing. Because sometimes when we fall into this habit, or routine or mindset of I have enough, this is enough. One day, you might wake up and realize that wasn’t enough, I needed more. But I told myself, and I sat in this belief that what I had was enough for so long, that I failed to make the growth that I really knew I wanted. But I was too shamed. I was too I felt too shameful. I felt too guilty to take the action to make the choice to get me to where I actually want it to be because I wasn’t actually happy. Like it was good for if it was good for a little bit. But I also wish I had more you know what I mean? So I don’t know if this idea this belief will resonate with everyone. I know that it’s definitely something that has helped me to continue to live in the mindset of get better and be better and do better where I can to live a life and get to the point now you guys truly I know I’ve said this a few times, where I feel like I’m living the highest version of myself that I have ever lived. And that’s because I’ve never just stopped at I love myself for where I am. I’m doing a great job. Right? That’s that’s I’ve never stopped there. And yes, I do love myself. I love where I’m at. But there are always spaces where we can do get and be better. And I don’t want us to lose sight of that. Because we’re living in this mindset of I’m good enough where I’m not and I love myself or not and that’s good enough. And that my friend is everything that I have for you today a fresh perspective that might not be something we all love or agree Are you with and that’s okay, but it’s my perspective, no less. I hope it helped who it needed to help. 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Until next time, my friend I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day. That is all I have for you today my dudes and I hope you love today’s episode. If you did, I would seriously appreciate it if you went and left the show a review and rating on whatever platform you’re currently listening on. For every review and rating that you leave it truly helps the show grow and reach more women just like yourself. If you had any major takeaways or aha moments, be sure to take a screenshot of this episode posted to your social media stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me at living in sunshine so I can share it with my people as well. Again, thank you so much for hanging out with me this week. And until next time, I am sending you all the sunshine good vibes and I hope you make it a great day.