Who Are You Behind in Life? Literally No One.

My sweet angel of a human, you are not behind. You aren’t. What you are, is a person putting unneeded pressure on herself that you just. don’t. need.

So I get this comment a lot online and in emails and DM’s on Instagram: “How do you handle not feeling behind? I just feel like I am not living up to everyone else and it’s not good for my mental health.” Well friend, I am about to give you a heavy dose of tough love on this because I think you could stand to hear it….


Being “behind” is a completely made up idea that is almost always self-inflicted to make yourself feel bad about where you are in your journey.


😬 do you feel called out? If you feel called out or triggered right now, you definitely needed to hear this today! And here’s why: you are partaking in a self-sabotaging habit that just isn’t beneficial to anyone in your life, especially yourself!

When you tell yourself you’re “behind”, you are telling yourself you aren’t good enough. You are saying, “where I am right now isn’t good enough for me to be happy in, so I am not worthy of being happy.” That’s what you’re telling yourself every time you tell yourself that you’re behind. 


But here’s the thing, you don’t have to participate in this narrative. At all. Ever. 👏🏼

Here’s how you step out of this ring of self-sabotage and step into the joy that is being content with where you are right now:


First, you mute / unfollow anyone on socials who is making you behind. This feeling of “behindness” is an act of comparison, which we just don’t have time for. You can’t compare yourself to something (or someone) who you can’t / don’t see. So if you find yourself feeling behind another person on social media, MUTE THEM ASAP! 

> I have 100% done this and it’s done wonders for me personally!


Secondly, it’s time for you to get into your own brain. I know for some people this can be really scary and uncomfortable to do, but it is and incredibly powerful practice. When you are more in-tune with yourself and your thoughts, you will be able to be so aware of when you are “feeling behind” and stop those thoughts in their tracks. Your thoughts, my friend, are not absolute truths. And you choose what you are thinking about. So if you are in tune with yourself enough to spot these thoughts, you will be able to stop them in their tracks *


Being behind is a made-up thing that we all, including myself, sometimes suffer from. But the truth is, you aren’t behind anyone and are not behind any place you thought you should be at in this point in your life. You are right where you need to be and are worthy of being proud of that space.

If you want more on this, listen to episode 67 of the Living in Sunshine Podcast below & let me know what you think! 


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